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25.01.2022 Criticism of our kids doesn't help them. It will usually register as a 'threat' in their body, leading to a fight with you. Our criticism will become their internal voice. If we want to help them learn from their experiences, we need to use curious questions where they feel safe and connected with you.
24.01.2022 The power of silence. When you are home do you have the radio, tv or music on all of the time? Or do you just potter around in silence? Many people have something going on in the background. You may not even know where this habit came from. It might have been a habit from your own childhood, or maybe something youve picked up in your own adulthood. It can serve as a distraction from your own feelings and thoughts. Silence and peacefulness is absolutely required for your brai...n and body to reset and rest. When there is constant background noise, your nervous system has to expend energy in processing it. Its tiring and you cant fully relax. This can also mean that everyone in the household is a little more tense The other downside is that its harder to hear your intuition and the inspired thoughts that will drop in when there is space. My challenge to you is to turn off all background sound for the next 3 days and see what happens to the way you feel in your body and what happens in your relationships at home.
22.01.2022 We had such a beautiful circle experience yesterday, that I am holding another one. If you want to nourish you and meet some beautiful mamas, come along. You wont regret it
21.01.2022 I remember as a child that I used to argue back sometimes. It was in those times when I really wanted something that was really important to me. Id beg and plead, but it was met with a firm no. Being firm in boundaries is amazing and perhaps that is why I have good boundaries...but the missing piece was acknowledging my feelings. Its all good, my parents were doing what every other parent from that era did...there was lots of good. Acknowledging feelings and being with your child while they have them, is deeply powerful. Its giving your child the map on how to move forward in relationships in times of difficulty. I work with so many adults who have difficulties expressing their feelings and who dare not raise issues with another adult. Why? As adults were often missing the map on how to do this.
11.01.2022 Are you ready to dive deeper and explore the sacredness of being a mama? Are you ready to be seen and held by other women who want to connect with their soul too? Do you have a sense that there is a deeper meaning to your journey and youd like to explore that? Perhaps youd like to meet other like-hearted mamas? Its time to give back to yourself dear mama Join me for a sacred mama circle that will give you clarity about 2020, connection with heart-centred women and energy to start this incredible year before us
11.01.2022 Dear beautiful mama. I see you...how overwhelming it can all feel. How you wonder if you are doing a good enough job. How you wonder if you're the only mama in the world who hasn't got it together. It seems like all of the other mamas have got kids who are high achievers, well behaved and well mannered. Their homes are always clean and there is nutritious, organic, vegan food served at each meal. Meanwhile you sometimes find it hard to get showered and brush your hair. You li...e awake at night wondering if you're even cut out for motherhood. It's not how they said it would be. It feels hard and overwhelming... and yet at other times it brings you the deepest joy, like you've never known. You wonder how a little person can evoke such strong feelings of gratitude and joy and the next minute you want to tear your hair out. I've got a secret to share...you are not alone All of us mamas have doubts, insecurities and fear. We are scared to talk about it in case we're judged by others. In case others tell us what we secretly fear is true...that we're stuffing this up. But, you are not stuffing up anything gorgeous one . Being a mama is one of the biggest growth opportunities of your life. Anything worthwhile has struggle. The fact that you are thinking about your impact on your kids highlights how much you care about them. You are human! The goal is not to be a perfect mama...there is no such thing. Instead we need to focus on realising that we are perfect just the way we are...with all of our imperfections. They choose YOU, just the way you are
10.01.2022 Each generation has a drive to improve conditions for their offspring so that they may prosper and have it "better" than the generation preceding it. This notion fits with survival of our species... Your behaviour, your attitude and your beliefs all shape the the generations to come. What legacy are you hoping to leave for your kids? What do you hope that they learn from you?
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08.01.2022 This graphic is super important to ourselves as parents and to educators. So often we can try to reason with our child or teach them a lesson (ugh, lectures!) and it just creates more problems? Why? Our kids can't learn and reflect if they are in the thick of big feelings. The brain can't access the problem solving and learning parts of the brain, when the brain stem (fight/flight) or Amygdala (feeling centre) is activated. Kids literally have to 'feel' safe (this is differen...t to physical safety) to be able to learn. Learning always comes second to co-regulating and connecting with our child. This can be a big bummer because doing the regulating and connection work can take time. Extra tricky at the moment when we might be trying to work from home and manage schooling from home. We can feel irritated and annoyed when we have to keep taking work breaks to scaffold learning. In turn, our kids may 'feel' our irritation, which can register as a threat to their connection with us, leading to more resistance to learning. As Kim Golding says, 'Connection, before Correction'. Kids are more likely to be cooperative if you spend time re-connecting with them.
08.01.2022 Inevitably our kids will have a meltdown where their body becomes flooded with emotions and they come tumbling out. Their capacity to contain themselves builds over time in response to attuned, accepting caregiving. Some adults cant do this well! If we regulate ourselves, we can co-regulate with our kids in time of need. We are their tuning fork. ... For more on how to do this, talk with me about circle of security parenting
07.01.2022 We all want the best for our kids, but we can inadvertently cause wounds. Not by intention, but through the transmission of inter-generational approaches to parenting. Parenting is automatic behaviour and so without awareness and change, we can find ourselves parenting in the same way as our parents. Thats awesome if you had a secure attachment with your parents, however a staggering amount of us had insecure attachments. Those with an Anglo heritage are more likely to have ...experienced an insecure avoidant attachment where emotional needs were missed. There may have been a sense that kids were to be seen and not heard, or that anger was unacceptable. You held your tongue and kept your views to yourself. So many of us women are repairing and healing this damage as we learn to find our voice and become ok with conflict and difference. We can do things differently, we just need the map to do it. The best predictor for success is life is having had a secure attachment with your caregiver. Relationships can be changed and healed...it is never too late to develop a secure attachment with your kiddo. A new circle of security course is coming in late feb. Let me know if youd like to chat about coming along, or if youd like an invite to the event
03.01.2022 #chaostocalm Hands up if you're overwhelmed right now? So many mums are reaching out to me wondering what to do with managing their kids and the overwhelm at home. Is this you?... I really want to help people who are struggling at the moment. I'm offering 5 mums the opportunity for a complimentary 1/2 hour session to trouble shoot the chaos and formulate a plan to calm and increased connection. Comment 'yes' to claim your spot!
