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24.01.2022 You may or may not be aware that in March 2012 my brother Paul went for a motorbike ride and never came home. We found his motorbike but have never found him. The mystery around his disappearance has haunted us for many years and it took me a long time to realise I was stuck in my grief. Every conversation, every thought I had about Paul for years was about what happened on "that day"...... I tormented myself, imagined every possible scenario, looked for any tiny clue we ma...y have missed that would tell us what happened, cried a million tears. Replayed the events over and over and over and over again desperately looking for answers. It was only when Paul's wife and children wisely decided it was time for us to have a 'celebration of life' for him and asked me to write down my memories that I let myself move from "that day" and start visiting my memories of Paul. It was a very powerful and healing process (painful yes!) that shifted me from the shock I was stuck in. I can also remember in the days after my Dad dying when I was 20 the local minister sitting with my family and asking us to tell him what my dad was like and share our stories of him. Again my fathers death was a huge shock to us and this powerful exercise helped us gently move from the shock and allow us to think of our dad and our relationship with him. I'm sharing this in case you too are feeling stuck in the trauma and shock of loss. Whether it is the loss of someone, a job, a business, an ability. It certainly doesn't stop the grief and pain. I have cried hundreds of tears over the past years. It's completely natural to feel pain, grief, anger, despair, resentment, disappointment and more when we've experienced loss. What letting go of the shock does do though, is help us move our focus from the trauma of loss and reconnect with our memories. My relationship with my brother is so much more than the day he disappeared. His life is so much more than the day he disappeared. I can accept now that he is no longer with us. I can accept that we don't know what happened to him. And on the anniversary of his disappearance we'll have our yearly "see you later" for him and remember the wonderful times we had while he was in our lives.

24.01.2022 Maybe she’s blowing you off. Maybe she’s a bad friend. Maybe she is keeping you in her back pocket for a rainy day. It’s entirely possible. Or maybe she’s busy.... Maybe her plate is completely full. Maybe she’s coping the best way she knows how. Maybe she’s stressed. Maybe she’s maxed out. Maybe stuff isn’t going her way, and she’s saving her energy. Maybe she really did miss your text. Maybe she is overwhelmed with kids, family, and bills. Maybe she’s trying her best, but her best isn’t much right now. Maybe anxiety is getting in the way and rearing its ugly head, as it so often does. Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all. Maybe it’s about her. There are a million reasons she might be falling short. Maybe it really is that things have run their course. It’s a sad part of life, but it is, nonetheless, a part of life. Only you can make that call. But, then again, maybe it’s something else. Don’t forget to give the benefit of the doubt. Don’t forget to cut her some slack. Don’t forget to forgive. Don’t forget sometimes friendship means loving each other through the tough seasons, and the rainy weather, and all the ups and downs. May we hold eachother in the good times and in the rough times even if that means giving space.... I see you sister To those I have been too busy for I love you - I’m sorry - To those who have been distant from me - I love you - I understand - I & I

22.01.2022 It's no secret I love International Women's Day. It reminds me to honour and celebrate the courage, strength and determination of the women who climbed the mountains that gave us the freedoms we women enjoy to day. The courageous women who dared to break down the barriers risking rejection, ridicule and punishment.... The brave women who stood in protest and spoke up in times much harder than we face today. Thank you for our freedoms. The freedom to vote. The freedom to keep our names. The freedom to be educated. The freedom to lead. The freedom to work after marriage. The freedom to own property. The freedom to speak up and be heard. The freedom to drink in public. The freedom to earn an equal wage. The freedom to play sport. The freedom to be counted. The freedom to make choices about our bodies. The freedom to say Yes. The freedom to say No. The freedom to leave the kitchen and laundries if we choose to. The freedom to be recognised as wise women, midwives, doctors, healers, medicine women. Of course there are still many more mountains to climb and battles to be won before all women everywhere are free to enjoy their rights on an equal footing to men. When I'm feeling discouraged about the work that's left to be done, I remind myself of the strength and courage of my mother, my grandmothers and all the great women who walked before me. We are not alone, together we will rise. Happy International Women's Day. NB My favourite photo of my beautiful inspiring mum and my gorgeous daughters...four of my greatest teachers xoxox

22.01.2022 So if you are someone who struggles to let people through your iron gated shell but inside desperately crave connection - these steps are just for you! 1. Learn about your past. Understand how and why you built the shell in the first place. This insight and awareness of yourself, validates the behaviour and also shows you the path to move forward. 2. Breakdown the wall between you and your feelings. Learn ways to slow down and connect in with yourself, your needs, wants and y...our desires. 3. Take time to understand what your emotions are telling you. Find ways to tolerate, celebrate, process and even express those emotions. 4. Really take time to understand what a reciprocal and mutually supportive relationship looks like and what you need to do in order to participate in one. This includes boundaries setting and creating safety for yourself. Message me if you are interested in learning more about this - I'm offering an online course and can put you on the waiting list.

21.01.2022 Do one new thing. Never underestimate the power of even a teensy positive action because one thing leads to another.

20.01.2022 Proud to #march4justice in Toowoomba today. It’s an empowering feeling to shout your message loudly through the streets. ... Angry not hysterical Passionate not hysterical Fierce not hysterical We will not be silenced! Never stop standing up for what you feel strongly about I encourage each and every one of you to set boundaries for yourself and be ruthless in your defence of them. Speak up, share your truth and know that you have a generation of women ready, willing and able to support you. Take ownership of your story and free yourself from the stigma of shame. Together we can bring about real meaningful reform to the workplace culture inside Parliament House and hopefully every workplace to ensure the next generation of women can benefit from a safer, more equitable Australia. Brittany Higgins

20.01.2022 I release the burden of trying to win acceptance from others

19.01.2022 I adore this photo. These are my grandparents and the only time I’ve ever seen them show physical affection to each other. Although I didn’t see the physical affection I never questioned their love for one another. I could see it in the many different ways they interacted with one another. ... Once again I’m reminded life is so so precious. Time is so precious. Our loved ones are so precious - we never know how long we have with everyone so pause with me and check how you are showing love to your family... through your words, your actions, your time, your attention, your physical touch... may we all love generously

16.01.2022 People are often really surprised by how much I can pick up during a kinesiology balance. Call me if you'd like to try it 0438760995

15.01.2022 Wow $32000 who would have thought drinking cocktails and eating delicious food with the loveliest people would raise so much money for such a worthy cause. Very proud to support Protea Place Women's Support Centre If you’re looking for great cause to support please consider - at present they receive no govt funding.

15.01.2022 Kinesiology is a great tool - it's like being able to 'google' your subconscious and unconscious thoughts and emotions for information via muscle monitoring. (Muscle monitoring - is when I hold your arm - or mine if we're on Zoom) I also use my Intuition when I'm doing a Kinesiology Balance - I've noticed over the years I've developed a pretty good ability to 'feel' and 'hear' different things that are relevant to the issue we are dealing with. I've also found I can tune in q...uite quickly to patterns in peoples lives and in their relationships. I think this has developed from years of working with clients with both Psychology and Kinesiology. I regularly get feedback from clients after a first session how surprised they are by what I can pick up in that first meeting. If you're feeling stressed in general or feeling stressed within your relationship you've come to the right place! Give me a call 0438760995

14.01.2022 It’s super easy to morph our beliefs to suit whoever we’re talking to because we want them to like us. What can be hard is standing firm to what we believe. The key is learning to be ok with feeling uncomfortable.

13.01.2022 Know yourself Accept yourself Love yourself Be yourself... This really guides how I work with women...so much liberation right there. Want to know more? Call me 0418760995 Jo x

12.01.2022 If your heart is hurting, for whatever reason, this is for you

11.01.2022 I feel more balanced and at peace. I really feel that I have come to the right place to work on all this Client Feedback It's my aim for each client to leave feeling the same way x

10.01.2022 Let these be your goals for today........and always x

10.01.2022 Learning how to listen in ANY relationship is an absolute game changer. Let me say that again. Learning how to listen in ANY relationship is an absolute game changer.... Listening is the first thing I look at when chatting with a couple. I'll notice if they listen and hear each other. If they talk over each other. Talk for each other. Cut each other off. Shut the other person down. Get defensive in conversations. Roll their eyes when the other person is speaking. Get restless wanting their turn while the other person is speaking. Looking away/at their phone when the other person is speaking. Whether they can hold eye contact while the other person is speaking, nod and acknowledge what they are saying. When we start dating its usually something we do incredibly well! Over time we can forget how to do it and our relationships really suffer. I know this sounds really basic...and it is...but it's something not many people do very well. What I love is when couples I'm working with start mastering this skill. Suddenly you see the magic come back into their relationship - the eye contact, the intimacy, the connection, feeling heard, understood and finally able to tackle the deeper topics. After all feeling heard is so close to feeling loved that it's hard to distinguish between them. If you think your relationship would benefit from this skill let me know x

07.01.2022 If you have a heavy place in your heart....this is for you...make sure you read it all x

06.01.2022 If you're feeling burnt-out about your life in general or about your Relationship I want you to know you are not alone my friend. Remember if need someone to talk to just send me a message.

06.01.2022 The Art of People Pleasing....a pattern that can be difficult to break x

05.01.2022 I used to get really stressed when unexpected things happened, or if things didn't work out the way I planned. I've noticed that it's during these times we find strengths and skills we never knew we had. Learning to adjust your sails rather than sink can be a huge step in overcoming and managing stress. ... It's something I enjoy showing my clients how to do. Life is full of storms the trick is to learn how to sail xx

04.01.2022 The number one way to safe guard your relationship from stress

03.01.2022 Hey lovely are you the kind and caring friend who is always checking in on others? Do you feel lonely and resentful when no one asks how you are? Our relationships can get so lopsided when one person is doing the giving and the other the receiving. ... Maybe you don't want to burden anyone with your problems. Maybe you fear no one will listen if you do. Or perhaps you think your problems aren't that important. Let me give you a reminder that you matter, how you feel matters and you deserve support too. And know only you can take responsibility for having your needs met. If you're a Giver and you've been doing it for so long you probably don't know how to receive. Let's not lie here....asking for help requires a lot of courage and vulnerability!! I want to share with you a couple of conversation starters to get you going.... * Is this an Ok time to talk? * I know I'm usually the listener but today I could use an ear. * Do you have time to talk I really need to get some things off my chest. * I don't need fixing or for you to come up with solutions for me, I really just need someone to listen while I vent. Are you available to talk? * Hey so I'm having a hard time and need to talk. Do you have time to listen today? * I'm not ok. Would you mind listening to me today? Now don't take it personally if someone is unavailable for you. Put your energy and time into the relationships that a mutually supportive. If you can't find anyone to talk to - you can always talk to a me - I am here for you 0438760995. PS this giver-receiver pattern is a pattern that can be changed xx