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Mediation by Argyll FDRP

Locality: Lismore, New South Wales

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25.01.2022 A mother made numerous complaints to Police and the Department of Family and Community Services alleging sexual abuse by the father on their child. The child was extensively questioned and interviewed without substantiation and maintains a strong relationship with his father. The mother was ordered by the Family Court to restrain from interviewing and questioning the child about allegations of sexual abuse of him, and she was restrained from unilaterally taking the child to see a psychologist. The court also ordered the appointment of an Independent Children’s Lawyer for an upcoming case about where the child should live the father was applying for the child to live with him. Contact Argyll FDRP if you need help mediating in a difficult parenting environment.

25.01.2022 "You were awesome" Client feedback to Argyll FDRP after a mediation this week. Thanks Michelle, I wish you and your family all the best.

24.01.2022 https://www.ted.com//joel_leo/recommendations/169705/share

23.01.2022 TOP 10 TIPS TO FAIL AT MEDIATION 1. Focus on the past and keep bringing up stuff that happened years ago that you know arcs up the other parent. Mediators need to know your history. 2. Make sure to remind the other parent what they did to hurt you. The mediator will be fascinated. 3. Remind the other parent of mistakes they’ve made as a parent, no matter how long ago it was. If you don’t, how will you show the mediator you’re the better parent? 4. Now’s the time to air you...r grudges against the other parent’s family. Bring in as many other players as possible. It’s all about family. 5. Focus on being right mediation is about proving to the mediator that you are a righteous person and you’ve done nothing wrong. 6. Bring a pile of printed out emails to prove your points and make the mediator read them. Ditto for sms. Recite arguments verbatim. You need to prove you’re right, right? 7. When talking to the other parent, start each sentence with You never or You always Accusations will ensure they don’t fall asleep during the long mediation. Jab your finger in their direction for extra emphasis. 8. Roll your eyes in disgust when the other parent speaks, then smirk at the mediator they’ll enjoy sharing your insight. The mediator is probably on your side. Why wouldn’t they be? 9. If you cannot come to an agreement, disagree to agree. This is about winning, not giving in. You must fight until you win. It takes two people to keep an argument going, so, keep arguing. 10. If you think you’re in danger of not winning, threaten to walk out. Make ultimatums that force the other parent to cave in. Show that mediator that you have the power. See more

21.01.2022 Some more client feedback

21.01.2022 Separating when you have children is stressful, no doubt about it. Mediation can be a great relief when you have achieved agreements about the children without the stress, waiting and cost of court. Click here for great tips on how to care for yourself. https://hellomojo.com/10-self-care-rituals-get-separation-/

21.01.2022 Full and frank disclosure In a recent Child Support case, a father failed to provide full and frank disclosure as to his income, property, and financial resources and the judge made her own findings as to his income. The father appealed the decision. The mother sought to recover the costs of that appeal (because she was forced to defend). The father lost the appeal and then incurred the mother’s costs as well as his own. It is important to make full and frank disclosure of income, property, and financial resources for the purposes of Child Support because, if your evidence is not full and frank, you might get a decision you’re not happy with. For support on how to get a parenting plan that works with your child support, go to the Argyll FDRP website.

20.01.2022 "Thanks for the mediation tess i feel like it has made a big difference, still a long way to go but it feels like me and [the other parent] are now on the same page and heading in the right direction."

20.01.2022 Co parenting in the virus epidemic

18.01.2022 Family Dispute Resolution Practitioners like Argyll FDRP assess for safety, including domestic violence. Tess attended yesterday's Peace Begins at Home discussion panel with local women working in DV services as part of the Lismore Women's Festival 2019.

17.01.2022 I hope I can make it this time.

17.01.2022 Mediators assess for safety before attempting mediation between separated parents.

17.01.2022 Hey dads out there! Where are you on this continuum of male engagement in promoting gender equality and preventing gender-based violence? The list below is a continuum and a conceptual tool for you to reflect on your efforts to promote gender equality and prevent gender-based violence. Overtly Hostile Resistant Uninterested ... Hesitant Overwhelmed Curious Engaged Active Ready to Lead Source: Funk, R (2006) Reaching Men: Strategies for Preventing Sexist Attitudes, Behaviours and Violence, Indianapolis, IN: Jist Publications.

17.01.2022 Is Pauline Hanson a good choice to chair a Parliamentary Family Law inquiry? Queensland Senator Pauline Hanson has been appointed to chair an inquiry into Family Law. Yes, ANOTHER one! Some commentators have said that having another inquiry is just a stalling tactic since we already have the Australian Law Review Commission (ALRC) Family Law System Review Final Report which made 60 recommendations for reform. ... Other commentators lament Senator Hanson's appointment, saying her previous comments about her personal experience and comments about participants in the system have been inflammatory and make her unsuitable to head the inquiry. I think Pauline is an inspired choice. Firstly, because she's a walking headline and able to get the media and public attention that the ALRC can't. Secondly, even though she's the chair, it's not inconceivable that she'll be influenced by other committee members whose opinions, knowledge and attitude may rub off onto her. What if her opinions changed - just ever so slightly? Maybe we could have a champion for family law reform, more effective than any government agency. Thirdly, she's been through the family law system. Until you've experienced the system, you cannot truly understand the dread and stress that drives some parents to murder and suicide - literally. I don't agree with much (any) of what she says, I'm not a fan of hers, and I don't live in Queensland, but I reckon she's a family law champion in the making. What do you think?

16.01.2022 Property mediation feedback

16.01.2022 "That went better than I thought it would. It was the best mediation we've had. Thank you for spending the time with us." Feedback from Dad, 39, Brisbane.

15.01.2022 Talking to my ex drives me crazy! How to Stay Sane Parenting After Separation - the top three tips for single mothers is a presentation by Argyll FDRP at the Lismore Women's Festival on 8 March at 10am. Come and learn from a family law mediator how to minimise conflict and stay focused on what's important - your children. Bookings: Tess M: 0448837372

15.01.2022 I attended a webinar today about violence perpetrated by men and how masculinity stereotypes are associated with this. One thing I learned was that the more rigid a man's belief in those stereotypes like "men are naturally agresssive" and "being heterosexual is compulsory", the harder it is for that man to develop more respectful relationships with women. How do you as a father role model to your kids respectful relationships with women? How do you as a mother role model to your kids what is acceptable behaviour from a man?

14.01.2022 Thanks for the mediation tess i feel like it has made a big difference, still a long way to go but it feels like me and [the other parent] are now on the same page and heading in the right direction.

13.01.2022 Looking forward to this workshop on indigenous cultural competency for my mediation practice.

13.01.2022 Parental Alienation: The Eeny Meeny Miney Mo Foundation website is a great resource for parents, children and professionals. The Foundation's vision is "For children to be free to love and spend time with both parents". Parental alienation is the outcome of emotional manipulation and abuse where a child’s rejection of a parent is unjustifiable.... https://emmm.org.au

13.01.2022 It's tempting to retaliate on social media, but ... don't! Find a family mediator in Brisbane, Gold Coast and Lismore. call 0448837372

11.01.2022 Mediation is a 2 step process. You meet with me (without the other parent) and learn how to get the most out of mediation, while I learn about your situation and how I can approach mediation to get the most out of it for all concerned. I do this with the other parent, too. Step 2: the 3 of us meet and mediate.

11.01.2022 The link between domestic violence and pets. "In Australia, over 70 per cent of victims of domestic violence who have pets, those pets are also being abused in the home." Says Dr Tong, a Taronga Zoo in-house pathologist who has undertaken research on how abusers use pets in domestic and family violence cases, and has found strong evidence that people who hurt animals also hurt humans. That means victims of domestic violence are often reluctant to leave their homes, because th...ey’re worried about what will happen to their pets. http://www.abc.net.au//link-between-domestic-viol/10263328

10.01.2022 I'm losing my kids to my ex! Transitioning to a single parent family after separation is difficult for children and parents. Some parents externalise their grief and anger and try to alienate (or distance) the children from the other parent. This form of conflict is damaging for children and distressing for the other parent. ... If you are being targeted by your ex who is trying to turn the children away from you, here are the top tips: - Get counselling from a psychologist who understands the harmful mental health effects of parental alienation. Ask your GP for a Mental Health Care Plan for you and the children so you can get Medicare subsidised counselling sessions. - Never give up. Never give up. Never give up. Keep trying to contact your children. Tell them you love them. Make it easy for them to contact you. - Contact their school and get updates on their progress. Arrange for a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (mediator) to facilitate co-parenting. - Speak to Tess at Argyll FDRP on 0448837372 about moving forward.

10.01.2022 Argyll FDRP mediation rated "above average" value for money in feedback. Contact Tess for swift, affordable, custom mediation on M: 0448837372.

09.01.2022 Argyll FDRP can facilitate a mediation and final outcome to your children's issues within weeks! Waiting times for a Family Court final hearing are about two YEARS at the moment. Your first appointment at a government funded mediation service will take about 10 weeks - that's just for the first appointment. For a flat rate of about a thousand dollars, Argyll FDRP can untangle the post separation parenting knot quickly, with customised mediation for you. www.ArgyllFDRP.com.au

09.01.2022 Child Support when a child moves between parents’ homes. The Guide to Social Security Law (‘the Guide’) provides guidance on how to determine percentage of care. The Guide sets out the following considerations to determine the extent to which a person is caring for a child: To what extent the person has control of the child, including having overall responsibility for the child and making major decisions relating to who the child spends time with and the child’s health, ...education, discipline, recreational and/or social activities, and arrangements for others to meet the needs of the child. To what extent the person meets the needs of the child by providing the child with accommodation, clothing, food, child care, education, health care, emotional support, supervision, transport and extra-curricular activities. To what extent the person pays for the costs of meeting the needs of the child. To what extent the person otherwise provides financial support for the child. To what extent the child provides for his or her own needs or has those needs met from another source. To what extent the child is financially independent or financially supported from another source. Percentage of care is also considered with respect to who has responsibility for making arrangements for, and decisions about, the child's welfare, as well as who is meeting the child's costs, rather than just the accommodation arrangements themselves. The evidence for this comes from the parents themselves and the Child Support staff ask each parent. Children are not involved in this discussion. What this means for you: get a clear parenting agreement that both of you will comply with so expectations are clear and disputes avoided. See more

09.01.2022 Customer review: Thank you immensely for your assistance and guidance in mediation today.

09.01.2022 Argyll FDRP is presenting at the 2019 Lismore Women's Festival. Learn the top 3 tips for staying sane parenting post separation in this research and evidence based presentation by a single Mum and family law mediator. 10am to 11.30am at the Lismore Women's Health and Resource Centre, Uralba St, Lismore (downhill from and next to the base hospital) 8 March 2019.... Bring your questions and experiences to share. $5 Bookings Tess: 0448 837372.

09.01.2022 Looking forward to attending: IMPACTS OF DRUGS & ALCOHOL ON SEPARATING FAMILIES This workshop will cover a range of issues around the impacts of drugs and alcohol on separating families, including: - the complexities of parental substance use - the impact of problematic and non-problematic substance use on parenting... - the link between substance use and mental health issues - barriers to engagement - balancing the needs and safety of children while empowering parents - statistics on use of alcohol and other drugs - referral and support options - classification of substances and problematic use - evidence based treatments and harm minimisation Presenters: Judge Leanne Turner, Federal Circuit Court of Australia Magistrate Annette Hennessy, Queensland Drug & Alcohol Court Jane Bowman, Accredited Mental Health Social Worker and Program Manager of Treatment Services at Queensland Injectors Health Network Michelle Taylor and Sonia Boyd, Insight Alcohol & Other Drug Training & Education

08.01.2022 I'm enjoying the Resolution Institute conference- Spotlight on Practice.

08.01.2022 Whether you never made it to the first appointment or went through to getting a parenting plan, we’d love to hear from you. Copy and paste the link below into your browser. It’s anonymous and takes 2 minutes. Thanks! Copy and paste this link into your browser to take the survey now:... https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/T2DX9DP

08.01.2022 I attended the Mediation Conference 18-19 October 2018. It was a great opportunity to share new skills with colleagues. Argyll FDRP phone 0448837372

07.01.2022 Argyll FDRP enjoying a Family Law Pathways Network event in Brisbane.

07.01.2022 I attended the Indigenous Cultural Competency in Law workshop yesterday at Southern Cross Uni, Gold Coast. (The only university with its own airport!) My take away was that we have a long way to go but we can get there, and have culturally competent lawyers.

07.01.2022 Cut the conflict - call a mediator. Here's yesterday's feedback from a client: "thanks for your help Tess. I wish I had contacted you long before." The ongoing conflict is affecting the children and the parents. Mediation has helped to reality check her expectations on how Family Law works in Australia. ... Mediators are impartial facilitators. During this facilitation process, mediators can explore parenting options with both parents to come up with workable, realistic solutions that the family can live with. Cut the conflict - call a mediator. Tess: 0448 837372 www.argyllfdrp.com.au

07.01.2022 Dealing with a narcissistic ex? Go grey rock ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqhA75fga8c

07.01.2022 Off to the United States to learn about Parenting Coordination. http://www.qldfamilylawnet.org.au//Parenting%20Coordinatio

06.01.2022 Feedback from a recent client: "I appreciate your time and professionalism. It was certainly a learning experience for me, following which, I hope we can focus on the children's best interests moving forward."

05.01.2022 Child Support and mediation. Tess has experience in mediation AND working for Child Support. I mediated with a Mum and Dad who both had children to former partners and also have children to each other. Their experience with Child Support after the first relationship was so awful, they didn't want anything to do with them. So, we mediated an agreement where they had a legally binding agreement to NOT have an assessment for Child Support. One less thing to stress about. Call Tess and get Child Support sorted at mediation.

05.01.2022 I am interested in Pauline Hanson's ability to unify disparate voices in the issue of DV, especially in the context of Family Law.

04.01.2022 Argyll will be presenting at the Lismore Women's Festival on 8 March: How to Stay Sane Parenting Post Separation. 3 top tips to help you navigate communication with your ex and look after yourself.

04.01.2022 Covid vaccinations for children. The other parent refuses to let our child be vaccinated for Covid-19 One parent wanted to have their 10 year old daughter vaccinated, and the other parent refused to consent to vaccination. They had equal shared parental responsibility and the child spent time with each parent 50/50. The Judge ordered that the parent could take the child to any vaccination appointment. In his judgment, His Honour said: Very regrettably, it is plain that th...e [other parent] does not support the child being vaccinated. The other parent’s opposition to the vaccinations would be likely to cause distress to the child. The other parent’s position in this regard is to be lamented. It flies in the face of the evidence The other parent’s position concerning vaccination is not child-focused, and it is not in the best interests of the child. It is not based on evidence and it may expose the child to harm. The evidence preferred by the court was of a mainstream doctor. Covington & Covington [2020] FamCA 1064 (11 December 2020)

04.01.2022 Best priced mediator in the Northern Rivers. Argyll FDRP will give you the best quote for parenting mediation and still give you an appointment when you want it.

04.01.2022 Love being part of the Lismore business community

03.01.2022 (Tamati) This is a beautiful whakatauki (saying) from one of our country's greatest nanny's. Dame Whina Cooper.

03.01.2022 What’s said in mediation stays in mediation A few years ago, two parents appeared in a Family Court case and consented to what they said in mediation being disclosed in court. The magistrate issued a subpoena for the mediation records. The organisation that provided the mediation services to the parents appealed the magistrate’s subpoena saying that there was no power for the magistrate to order disclosure, even if the parents consented. The organisation won and the subpoena was set aside. What this means for you: You can speak freely in mediation so that your issues can be dealt with openly and fully, without fear of having to later defend in court what you said in mediation. For more info, go to www.ArgyllFDRP.com.au

03.01.2022 You know you need mediation when...

02.01.2022 It's good to put the children first, of course. Don't fall into the trap of pretending you're acting in your children's best interests when you might be putting your own needs before theirs.

01.01.2022 "Tess is easily the best mediator I have ever come across. ... yesterday was our sixth mediation. ... I was constantly impressed by how quickly Tess saw to the crux of what was important in the points that we were discussing."

01.01.2022 If you have a legal dispute and you don't want to go to court, mediation is faster, cheaper and much less stressful. Argyll mediation has appointments available this week in Lismore. Ring to find out more. M: 0448 837372

01.01.2022 Top 10 guide for separated parents during Covid-19: +https://documentcloud.adobe.com/link/review

01.01.2022 If your case goes to the Family Court, you could be paying about $110,000 for legal representation. For a case heard in the Federal Circuit Court, the cost is about $30,000, according to a Price Waterhouse Coopers report and published in the Sydney Morning Herald last weekend. Search "What the Family Court shakeup means for families" for the full story. Add to that, if you filed a case today, you wouldn't get a decision until 2020. Aren't you better off sorting out your issue...s in mediation? Go to www.ArgyllFDRP.com.au Contact Tess at Argyll FDRP today on 0448 837372 and avoid the delays and cost by going to mediation.

01.01.2022 Mediation now available in Ashgrove, Brisbane. In addition to mediation in Fortitude Valley, Brisbane and Lismore, NSW. Argyll FDRP mediating with separated parents.

01.01.2022 More positive feedback: "Thank you again. This has been a very stressful time for me and your assistance is very much appreciated."

20.12.2021 The Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia recently had to decide whether it was authorized to order a child be vaccinated in the case of Covington v Covington (2021) FLC 94-014. Pursuant to section 65 of the Family Law Act 1975 (which applies to parents who were married) and section 37 of the Family Court Act 1997 (which applies to parents who were in a de facto relationship), a court may make any parenting order it considers appropriate in the circumstances of the ca...se. This power was held by the court to include vaccination. The only requirement on the court is that, when deciding to make such an order and all other parenting orders, the court’s primary concern must be whether such an order is in the best interests of the child. After the Family Court reached this conclusion in Covington, the applicant then applied for special leave to appeal the decision to the High Court of Australia. The High Court dismissed the application for special leave on 9 September 2021, effectively concluding the matter. It is common for orders to be made that a child be vaccinated as per the National Immunisation Program Schedule, particularly in cases where there is no evidence the child in question has any special medical requirements that would result in detrimental side-effects. For example, in the case of Manis & Reddin (2011) FLC 93-478, orders were made for the child to be vaccinated in accordance with Department of Health guidelines, including against diseases such as measles, mumps rubella, tetanus, and diphtheria. Other orders may be made where the child has received vaccination recommendations from a medical specialist, such as the case of Duke-Randall & Randall [2014] FamCA 126, where the Court ordered the children be vaccinated as recommended by their medical specialist. Ultimately, the Family Court has the power to order vaccinations, regardless of parental consent. Whether the court will actually make such an order will depend on the best interests of the child, with any particular needs or circumstances of the child taken into account. This is an excerpt from a page at Carr & Co. https://www.carrco.com.au/no-jab-no-say-can-the-family-cou/

05.12.2021 Feedback: "Hello Tess, Thank you very much for all the work in such a short time."

25.11.2021 Feedback from a client

11.11.2021 Genuine Steps Certificate Yes, Argyll Mediation can assist with your Genuine Steps Certificate for your Family Law matter. Tess can take your inquiries about available dipute resolution - mediation, invite the other parent to participate in dispute resolution (mediation), and conduct the mediation with a nationally accredited mediator or Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner. Call Tess from Argyll Mediation on 0448 837372 or visit ArgyllMediation.com.au

01.11.2021 Survey about complying with parenting orders. As part of their Compliance with and Enforcement of Family Law Parenting Orders project, AIFS is conducting a survey of parents and carers who have family law parenting orders made in the past 5 years. AIFS is inviting FLS members to share the survey material with clients who may be interested in participating.... The survey will be closing on August 31 with full information available HERE. or call Tess on 0448837372

29.10.2021 Family Law New National Contravention List The Family Court of Australia and the Federal Circuit Court have today announced the launch of a new national contravention list. Under the new scheme, to take effect upon the commencement of the Federal Circuit Court and Family Court of Australia (FCFCOA) on 1 September 2021, contravention applications will be given a first return date within 14 days of filing.... The new list will be administered by registrars who will undertake an assessment of each matter and where appropriate, allocate the matter to a Judge or Senior Judicial Registrar in a streamlined and timely manner. The new form for such Applications, the relevant Practice Direction, and details of the categories of alleged contraventions to be addressed in that list are not yet available. The timeframe for management of contravention hearings, if one is required, beyond the first return date is also not yet known.

14.10.2021 Feedback from a client: "You have done an amazing job, think I owe you dinner next time I'm in town ..." 11:40 August 18, 2021