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New Beginnings Counselling and Psychotherapy

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25.01.2022 Listen and Trust the intelligence of your body.

25.01.2022 WHY NEEDING SOMEONE IS A GOOD THING Though we’re loath to admit it, we human beings are a pretty needy bunch. We need to know we’re loved. That we belong.... That we’re seen, supported and safe. Yet, most of us resist letting others know how much we depend upon them because we don’t wish to appear too needy. We easily confuse neediness with having appropriate needs. Here’s the difference. When you’re needy, you’re identified with a younger part of you that’s emotionally stuck in a lie. Emotionally, you’re a two-year-old, terrified no one will ever love you. Or an infant who’s consumed with dread that no one will ever show up for you. Or you’re twelve and filled with the shameful understanding that you’re not enough. When overly identified with these wounded parts of us, we’ll pull on others desperately to try to fix something that can’t really be fixed. Because one can’t really fix a lie. One can only disappear it with the truth. And because desperation is so wildly unattractive, you and I have learned to hide our needs entirely. Becoming totally self-sufficient and trying hard to not need anyone for anything. Let me tell you why that’s a problem. Emotional bonding happens when we can feel how much we need each other to be well and healthy in life. When we allow others to see how much we actually need them--for love, safety, co-creativity and mutual support, it inspires people to want to move closer toward us. Human bonds form because we need one another. And that’s a very good thing. Today, take an inventory of your healthy needs, and take the risk to express them more authentically to those you love. Katherine Woodward Thomas Love Dimitra

24.01.2022 Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Charles R. Swindoll #attitude #gratitude #mindfulness #focus #happiness

24.01.2022 How to hack happiness chemicals! Love Dimitra

24.01.2022 A great snapshot of what it means to be Love Bombed. This applies to both genders. Take note and understand why individuals do this. Actions speak louder than words.

24.01.2022 This is just so beautiful

22.01.2022 The source of your power is your integrity. The simple act of honoring your word is the beginning of power. Yet most of us have a string of broken promises in our wake.... Promises made to others and promises made to ourselves. Promises we considered trivial when we broke them. Think of the millions of diets started on a Monday only to be forgotten by a Thursday. Or the many workout schedules that go unfulfilled. Are we hurting anyone when we fail to fulfill upon our promises to ourselves? Are we even hurting ourselves? Not really. But something is lost in the process. Because our personal power is compromised each and every time we break our word to ourselves, and then diminish the consequences. We borrow against our own esteem each time we dismiss our promise as of no concern, or make our obligation to someone else more important than the ones we have to ourselves. When you begin to keep your word to yourself, something happens. You begin to feel powerful. Even before you get the promotion or the platform - try making a promise to yourself today and then keep it. See what opens up within you as you do so. You’ll be surprised! Love Dimitra

22.01.2022 A short and succinct article re processing grief during Covid-19.

22.01.2022 A great short article that reinforces that there is no one way in grieving however here are a few strategies to help you deal with the devastation that is.

21.01.2022 A stew needs time for the flavors to sink in; so do people, observes the sage matriarch of After the Storm....Love this quote from a Japanese movie I saw at the MIFF.

21.01.2022 Empathy... drives connection! Reach out to those you love and care about today! Life is so precious. What have you to lose? ... Dimitra

21.01.2022 We become what we want to be by consistently being what we want to become each day. Richard G. Scott

18.01.2022 Ideas for moving from stressed to strong. A great article that highlights what we can do in such times! Love Dimitra

18.01.2022 Remember - to be Kind and Compassionate to Yourself! Pour your love into YOU like you would for someone you love! Have a great day Dimitra

18.01.2022 #innerchildhealing #selflove #selfcare #healing #love #kindness #compassion #beyourbestself #innerpeace #innerchild #confidence #belonging #powerful #mentalhealth #cominghome #empowerment #pyschology #carlyung #reparentingyourself #copingstrategies #brave #courage #counselling Our earliest attachments (relationships with parents + caregivers) create the foundation of our adult relationships. We always seek the familiar. ... The mind + body feels safe in what is predictable, even if the predictable brings pain or dysfunction. For many of us, red flags aren’t red flags at all. They’re the familiar. They’re what love looked like in our earliest years. This is the template we were given. This was considered our normal. That’s why there’s so much shame around trauma bonds. People assume that people should just leave or know better. Why would someone leave what feels like home? There’s an element of trauma bonding that fuels emotional addiction. There also a cycle, a roller coaster of powerful emotional states of push-pull dynamics. At their core, trauma bonds allow us to re-live patterns of emotional abandonment. Our adult self is seeking to re-enact patterns where we can finally be chosen, finally be seen, heard and loved. Even if it means betraying ourselves. Trauma bonds can be healed, as we do the work to heal our inner child. The inner child that is still seeking another person to resolve past wounding. We are the only ones that can heal our inner child. We can learn to reparent our inner child and create a secure attachment to ourselves and hence others. Let me guide you - make an appointment with me today. #kindness #compassion #selflove Love Dimitra

17.01.2022 #selflove #choices #healthylifestyle #healthychoices #therapy #perception #awareness #counselling #selfcare #mentalhealthawareness #bookanappointment #baysidemelbourne #psychology #psychotherapist #counsellor It’s not them, it’s you. When I first heard this, I thought I was being blamed. I thought someone was telling me that my life wasn’t going the way I wanted it to because I was doing something WRONG and it was my FAULT. ... I would spiral into shame and get angry and then fall into despair. But over time I started to understand that there’s a difference between blaming yourself and taking responsibility. Taking responsibility is where you assume that your life your whole life and everything in it is less about what happens to you and more about how you respond to it. Less about what’s happening out there and more about what’s happening in here. And if something’s not working, you have to figure out what’s going on in you what you’re bringing to the situation and see what you can change. You have so much more power than you might think! You may not have control over the world, but you can always examine your attitudes, your conditioning, and your belief systems for what is no longer serving you. And quickly you realize that the world does what it’s going to do but over time your life will become a reflection of your specific choices. Let me guide you to discover the real authentic you! Love Dimitra See more

17.01.2022 "Let the beauty of what you love, be what you do"

16.01.2022 Take a moment amd PAUSE. Step back, Breathe, Observe what you are reacting to and put it into Perspective. Dimitra

16.01.2022 Standing up to your inner critic! A great 5 minute read.

15.01.2022 "Feed your faith and all of your doubts will starve to death." Gaur Gopal Das, author of The Way of the Monk

14.01.2022 A great free mentoring program by men for men, which is now available in Melbourne. Check out the website to learn more. https://mentoringmen.org.au/

14.01.2022 When were going through a tough time, many of us feel pressure to put on a brave face, keep a stiff upper lip, and otherwise brace ourselves to hide our emotions. Sometimes in life, unexpected and even tragic, painful experiences happen. When these moments occur, its natural to feel bad. Allowing yourself to fully experience and express your emotions may be a bit frightening at first, but take a cue from young children.... When a child feels sadness, hurt, frustration, or disappointment, what do they do? They may cry, rage, throw themselves on the floor, and sob. While this may seem dramatic to adults, what happens when the tantrum is over? The child typically picks themselves up and moves forward. Most of the time, they dont dwell in regret, sadness, and despair. Instead, they fully allow themselves to experience the depth of their emotions and express them. As adults, we may tamp down our emotions and hold them in until were ready to implode or explode. Suddenly were yelling at the dog, another car on the road, or our spouse, not because of anything he or she did, but because weve displaced our emotions and havent allowed ourselves to really dig in and let them wash over us. Ever experienced this? I bet you have. As weve learned, therere no emotions that are bad or wrong. This is especially true when something upsetting happens in our life. Let me help navigate you on your journey. Love Dimitra

14.01.2022 When the storms of life begin to weigh heavy on your heart and body, pause, take a few deep breaths, feel the pain, accept what's happening for you in the moment, take a few more deep breaths, and think of something beautiful in your life. Life is always a duality of pain and pleasure. Feel the pain, don't deny it, and let the something beautiful in your mind soothe it, and transform it. Place your attention on the beautiful and trust yourself and life completely. Love Dimitra

13.01.2022 An effective Counsellor does not tell you what to do. That is certainly a misnomer. Instead they build a strong relationship with you that makes you feel safe, non judged and they skilfully and gently ask you questions so you can better understand You! Then they give you the tools to make the change that you would like to see and achieve your goals! Make an appointment with me today. Why not start the New Year with taking that first step in becoming.... Love Dimitra See more

12.01.2022 Something to make you smile

12.01.2022 Practising Gratitude! Start now... List three things you are grateful for today! So many benefits!... Be thankful for what you have; youll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you dont have, you will never, ever have enough - Oprah Winfrey

12.01.2022 Ive been seeing so many people seriously beating themselves up because they arent maximising their time in quarantine by organising their closets, repainting, developing a side hustle, becoming a piano virtuoso, exercising themselves into a lucrative career as a swimsuit model, etc. Everybody! Seriously Stop and Breathe!. ... If youre feeling adrift, theres a reason. Im about to drop some first semester psychology on you all. Its Maslows Hierarchy of Needs. As humans we have basic requirements (the bottom of the pyramid) like food, water, air, shelter, sleep, and a big one Connection including human touch, which a lot of us are not receiving right now. The biological basics. If those are met, then the next stage of the ladder is Safety and Security. If we feel safe and secure, then we can climb up and start on our Love and Belonging needs and on up the ladder we go until finally we reach the very top which is SELF-ACTUALIZATION (which would entail all of the cool aforementioned activities). The catch is, you cannot level up until the needs at the current level are fulfilled. If these needs remain unfulfilled, we remain stuck on our current level until the situation changes. Please, in the midst of a pandemic, a majority of us are dwelling in the basement of Maslows pyramid. How in the heck do you think youre going to kick butt at the highest levels when we cant even fulfill our basic Phtsiological needs. You physiologically and psychologically arent built to live your best life right now. Your only job is to live a life right now. A luxury that is being denied many which increases the pressure to really make every day count. But listen. Every day you are here counts. Every breath you take counts. Are you eating, drinking water, and sleeping at all these days? If so, that is a triumph right now. Cut yourself some Slack... Actually a lot! Focus on the bottom level. Are you showering? Earing a healthy diet? Getting some sunshine and fresh air? Keeping some semblance of a sleep schedule? Exercise? Start there. Please be extra gentle and abundantly gracious with yourself. Well get through this. And right now, getting through is absolutely enough. Be kind and compassionate to yourself, Please reach out if you need to. We were never meant to do it alone! Love Dimitra

11.01.2022 The Gift of This Moment The beauty about each and every day is that when we open our eyes in the morning we have the very real opportunity to be exactly who we want to be. This is much different than the person we are so often compelled to be out of habit or circumstance. The present is a gift. It is a blank slate to be drawn, doodled, and created upon.... Create Your Circumstances You were found the day you were born, and each and everyday when you awake you continue to find yourself. Finding oneself or knowing oneself is a continual process, and everyday you find a bit more. What is interesting though, what makes all the beautiful moments in life is what you do with what you find. Do you want to be healthier, happier, stronger, smarter, wiser? Create the daily circumstances for yourself to transform into that being. Embrace the Changes If you continually create the circumstances for your own transformation you will inevitably transform. This will open new ideas pathways and opportunities that you can create new ideas within. Thus life becomes art, creation, and amazingly joyous. Happy Monday Love Dimitra

11.01.2022 The importance of taking time out! You are the expert in your life so listen to you and the intelligence of your mind and body.

11.01.2022 What it means to hold space for another.

10.01.2022 So where do you draw the line? The delineation between work and home? Heres A few simple tips in switching off from work during the pandemic.

10.01.2022 The Wolf That Wins There was a story that was widely circulated a few days after the attacks of September 11, 2001, that illustrates our dilemma. A Native American grandfather was speaking to his grandson about violence and cruelty in the world and how it comes about. He said it was as if two wolves were fighting in his heart. ... One wolf was vengeful and angry, and the other wolf was understanding and kind. The young man asked his grandfather which wolf would win the fight in his heart. And the grandfather answered, The one that wins will be the one I choose to feed.

09.01.2022 Absolutely! Rome was not built in a day! Kindness and compassion.

09.01.2022 One day, or day one. Think about what you truly want to accomplish. Feel good in knowing it's on it's way. Take steps toward reaching your goals each day. The time will pass regardless, so you might as well start NOW! Consistency is key. ... Be mindful of what you are working towards. Have a wonderful day everyone Love Dimitra See more

09.01.2022 Red flags to avoid in new relationships!

08.01.2022 Watch this 1 minute video! This is for you! Have a great day.. Hapoy Friday https://nerdist.com//chris-hemsworth-positive-energy-pep-/

08.01.2022 An attitude of Gratitude. Why are you grateful for today? Love DImitra

07.01.2022 A few tips for a happy relationship...

07.01.2022 Focus on progress! Kindness and compassion to oneself

06.01.2022 Gratitude.... Just beautiful! Incorporate this into your morning and evening routine and notice how your life changes - so many evidenced based benefits.... Love DImitra

06.01.2022 A great little article to help ease your mind out of worrying!

06.01.2022 #feelthefearanddoitanyway #stretchyourself #courage #growthmindset #youvegotthis #fakeittillyoumakeit #theworldisyouroyster #reachforthestars #letmeshowyouhow #bookanappointment with me #counselling #successtips101 #therapist #provensuccess #justdoit #now

06.01.2022 #selflove #lovethyself #empowerment #positivevibes #bookanappointment #therapysession #bayside #counselling #bentleigh #innerpeace #direction #psychology #therapist

05.01.2022 Message of the day... Not only was he a creative genius, but an insightful & wise man. Never play to the gallery! Ensure you're a little out of your depth. Push beyond those boundaries. ... This is where the fruit lies! See more

05.01.2022 What is your purpose? Struggling to find your passion... let me help guide you in unraveling it. Book an appointment with me today. I have helped hundreds of people do this successfully. Love Dimitra

05.01.2022 I had to share... no cookie cutter approach... if it aint broke dont fix it... if it works, well head in that direction! You are the expert in your life! Ill say that again... YOU are the expert in your life... !

04.01.2022 Boundaries! Boundaries! Boundaries! Do you feel like you never get your needs met?... Do you people please? Do you put others first? Do you hold back in expressing what you really want due to a fear of being rejected? Are you passive therefore not having a voice and being able to express how you really feel? Do you feel like you're being bullied? Do you feel like you're overworked? Do you feel like the victim? Do you have low self worth? I have spoken a lot about setting Boundaries. as most importantly they highlight the responsibility you have to yourself to set limits and offer advice on how to set the scene to have a productive conversation with someone who disagrees with you. Let me show you how. Book an appointment with me today. Dimitra

03.01.2022 Our earliest attachments (relationships with parents + caregivers) create the foundation of our adult relationships. We always seek the familiar. The mind + body feels safe in what is predictable, even if the predictable brings pain. Or dysfunction.... For many of us, red flags arent red flags at all. Theyre the familiar. Theyre what love looked like in our earliest years. Thats why theres so much shame around trauma bonds. People assume that people should just leave or know better. Why would someone leave what feels like home? Theres an element of trauma bonding that fuels emotional addiction. There a a cycle, a roller coaster of powerful emotional states of push-pull dynamics. At their core, trauma bonds allow us to re-live patterns of emotional abandonment. Our adult self is seeking to re-enact patterns where we can finally be chosen finally be seen, heard, + loved. Even if it means betraying ourselves. Trauma bonds can be healed, as we do the work to heal our inner child. The inner child that is still seeking another person to resolve past wounding. Make an appointment with me today. #kindness #compassion #selflove

02.01.2022 #positivevibes #goals #action #plan #selfcare #selflove #healthyboundaries #youcandothis #manifestation #empowerment #trust #beliveinyourself #confidence #letmeguideyou #counselling #therapy #selfawareness #staystrong #baysidemelbourne #psychology #visualise #dream #dreambig Make an appointment with me today Love Dimitra

02.01.2022 #selfcare #selflove #bounceback #boundaries #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #newbeginnings #justdoit #sunrise #motivation #empowerment #gratitude #goals #goalsetting #mindfulness #present #presentmoment #youcandoit #starttoday #counselling #makeanimpact #successful #sucess #growth #plans #onestepatatime #onestepcloser #dream #dreambig # The Gift of This Moment The beauty about each and every day is that when we open our eyes in the morning we have the very real opp...ortunity to be exactly who we want to be. This is much different than the person we are so often compelled to be out of habit or circumstance. The present is a gift. It is a blank slate to be drawn, doodled, and created upon. Create Your Circumstances You were found the day you were born, and each and everyday when you awake you continue to find yourself. Finding oneself or knowing oneself is a continual process, and everyday you find a bit more. What is interesting though, what makes all the beautiful moments in life is what you do with what you find. Do you want to be healthier, happier, stronger, smarter, wiser? Create the daily circumstances for yourself to transform into that being. Embrace the Changes If you continually create the circumstances for your own transformation you will inevitably transform. This will open new ideas pathways and opportunities that you can create new ideas within. Thus life becomes art, creation, and amazingly joyous. Love Dimitra

02.01.2022 GOAL SETTING 2021! Before you decide on your goals for the New Year, you may want to do this simple exercise of your year in review. Life goes by fast and more often than not, we don’t take time to celebrate our growth. Slow down speed racer! The adult kid in you needs a pat on that back, so please give yourself that experience!... As Margaret Wheatley said, Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful. Plus, if you’re always focused on the next thing, you’ll miss the absolutely vital lessons along the way. So take an honest inventory of what worked and what you’d like to improve. The questions below will help you. Think of this phase of journaling like a closing ceremonya way to look back so that you can spring forward! 1. What’s something amazing you discovered about yourself? 2. What’s the most important thing you learned this year? 3. What accomplishment or experience are you the most proud of? 4. What’s one perspective shift you could make that would lead to more love in your life and in the lives of others? 5. What are you ready to release in 2020(one limiting story)? 6. What are you ready to experience in 2021? 7. How will you challenge yourself (push yourself out of your comfort zone) to achieve what you desire in the new year? Now, choose a realistic number of goals or intentions for 2021: For me, that’s three. Then write a list of all the action items needed to accomplish your goal. And finally, add these tasks to your calendar. If you don’t work them into your schedule or daily practice, they won’t happen. Goals without actionable steps are just wishes. Make it happen, captain! Go forth and conquer! Love Dimitra