Mind Over Matter Psychological Services in Wentworthville, New South Wales, Australia | Psychotherapist

Mind Over Matter Psychological Services

Locality: Wentworthville, New South Wales, Australia

Phone: +61 2 8896 6066

Address: 2/45 Old Prospect Road 2145 Wentworthville, NSW, Australia

Website: http://www.mindovermatter.net.au

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25.01.2022 I read this today and had to share

25.01.2022 A card from my son He even got the logo in!

24.01.2022 **warning** this post is about domestic violence. The post is not exhaustive in terms of ideas but I do encourage reaching out to the authorities and mental health professionals for further assistance. Please share this if you feel the content is appropriate.... Please keep each other accountable and accept that domestic violence is categorically not acceptable. Call 000 or 112 if it's an emergency Lifeline - 13 11 14 Kids Helpline - 1800 55 1800

24.01.2022 What has become an annual tradition for Mind Over Matter is a generous donation to a deserving charity or cause. This year I have chosen the Surf Life Saving Foundation. From the story I tell of almost drowning at Curl Curl 8 years ago and learning to be humble in my stupidity of not swimming between the flags, to my eldest son being stung by a blue bottle... I can't thank our Life Savers enough for their efforts and patience ... Please donate if you can. The path to more opportunities for happiness is Giving and Growing. https://www.slsfoundation.com.au/

23.01.2022 Mr C (Counsellor)... love it! I counsel the cool

22.01.2022 Hi Everyone, I know it's been a while! Firstly thank you to those of you who have reached out and continued to trust me with your mental health! I hope that our collaboration is helping you not just to survive but thrive... as I've heard recently "surthrive!"... Received my black belt in Goshin Kan Karate last night! Super stoked about this! Listening to audiobooks and applying what I'm learning... Navigating COVID, business, being a part-time Dad with growing boys with assessed mental health issues (opportunities?)...In a new relationship which has been incredible! NB: be with someone who you can safely sit down and talk to, without judgment, and who makes you laugh until your abs hurt! (FYI awesome ab exercise) Two audiobooks that I'm recommending at the moment include: - The Decision by Kevin Hart - Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss I like Kevin's straight forthrightness, humour, and vulnerability. This guy has done it! He's human, flawed but has experienced the time under tension to grow and achieve. Tim, has reviewed and pooled all his podcast notes and summarised his podcasts. You can go to check his podcasts for more depth on certain conversations. You won't regret listening to these... naturally if you do, you can always return it and get your credit back. Tools of Titans was a freebie... I think may still be... Tim's guests are human. Tim is human. Kevin is human. I think it's important for us to really step back and put things into perspective and really embrace hope that we can do this. We all have our own unique story but with support, we can grow. We can get to the destination we set for ourselves NOT what society or culture has conditioned us to believe. This can be a toughy... but the freedom of setting your own goals to create more opportunities for happiness and a freedom from suffering, to see obstacles as opportunities, is liberating! Feel free to PM me or email [email protected] You've got this! We've got this! https://www.audible.com.au//Tools-of-Titans-Aud/B082VL93B8

22.01.2022 Big thank you to Ash for the very 'timely' gift! Very very thoughtful! Well done on all your progress mate Ash makes these custom design clocks so please PM me for his details.

22.01.2022 Luke and I have had a close working relationship for a while now and he's teamed up with Scott to release this. I've watched it and I'm recommending it. Regardless of age, I feel we've all been there, transitioning careers, life circumstances etc. Check it out ... Well done guys!

21.01.2022 Love this from @codependencycurious! How can you build more of these actions and items into your daily routine this week?

21.01.2022 I've been reading a number of posts recently about certain mental health conditions and the attribution to deficits in one's functioning. E.g. I have depression and that's why I can't... What about when things go well, what do we attribute the success to? Hard work? Skill? Luck? Interest? I'm not discounting the significant impact of mental health on functioning for many people. ... I'm grateful for individuals who bring awareness to their discretionary use of their mental health as a barrier, rather than taking ownership for limited progress in an area because of other reasons... "you know what, I just don't like (insert topic or task) and that's why I suck at it" or "I just don't put the effort into areas I have limited or no interest in" I do believe that these individuals can make it more challenging for the wider community to accept mental health as an illness, as a disability or as a real barrier to functioning. For those of us who are frustrated or angry toward these individuals, cultivate patience, compassion and forgiveness. We are all functioning at the level of consciousness and/or skill that we have at a given period of time. We are all perfectly imperfect, striving for peace, love, understanding, happiness and a freedom from suffering. We may just go about it in different ways Feel free to PM me or email [email protected] You've got this! Have an awesome weekend! Nav - Principal Psychologist

20.01.2022 Just to add to the video, if you're sick, please stay home

20.01.2022 Good morning! I have a number of valued clients (consumers) advise me that the next available appointment to see me is mid-August 2020. I am truly grateful for your support and trust. In order to be of better service to my clients, I've needed to review the fee-structure once more and have decided to apply my weekend rates across the week too. ... From 15th July 2020, it will cost $140. With a Mental Health Care Plan you can claim the rebate through Medicare Online. You may be eligible for a WentWest Mental Health Referral. If approved it will mean no cost to you. Please see your doctor to organise this before your appointment. Please be aware that the recommended rate by the APS is $254. Please see the link for more information. https://www.psychology.org.au//about-psychol/what-it-costs Thank you again for all your support!

19.01.2022 Today is R U OK? Day. Before you ask the question to someone, please check out the website, watch the video and explore the resources, just in case someone says "No". Also, before asking someone and after checking out the website, ask yourself, "am I ok?" ... If you're not ok, take the advice you'd give to someone else. Seek appropriate help from a professional or genuinely well meaning person or people, in your life. I say this because despite being family or friends, you need to reflect honestly about the past and if these people have actually been there for you. Have you felt better after the conversation with them or after receiving their help? Hope you have an awesome enriching and inspiring day! Remember, like Valentine's Day, Mother's Day and Father's Day, we should be expressing our love more often not just on special occasions. We should be asking each other R U OK? more often. - Nav Director and Principal Psychologist at Mind Over Matter Psychological Services Feel free to PM me, text or call me on 0423062018 or email me [email protected]. https://www.ruok.org.au/

18.01.2022 Had a client pop in today with a thank you cheesecake. Someone with a challenging beginning who's back on the road to achieving his goals! WDO to help with fines, evidence based coping strategies and putting in the work! Very proud and grateful

13.01.2022 Happy Monday! I loved the Seinfeld special on Netflix where he talks about repetition... see the link: https://youtu.be/VQYZPc0fB8w... A few I use and there are so many more out there (credit to those who coined these): - Hurt people, hurt people - People who judge, don't do. People who do, don't judge - Change creates change - Self-discipline encourages self-discipline And my favourite... - It is, what it is (accept the situation and do something about it)

13.01.2022 I was contemplating a discussion with a valued client on the weekend. An athlete, I suggested to him the idea that when we workout our body, we often take muscles to a point where we need to make time for recovery. This could be a massage, ice bath, sauna, sleep... or resting between sets. If we don't do this, it's unlikely the muscle will be able to lift or perform the exercise at the same level of strength or intensity, it could result in injury (at least that's my experie...nce). With our minds, some of us don't give our minds enough time to recover, to rest. Yet we expect the same mental strength, endurance. We expect to be free of depression or anxiety and are surprised if we have a panic attack. We expect performance levels as at the start of the day or in "better times". I say better times to emphasise the idea that if your routine is uninterrupted by complications then your mind is used to this. If however in one day, one looses their job, your child is sick, you've blown a tyre, your partner leaves you, you've got to go to a job interview, you spill coffee on your shirt just as your uber arrives.... etc. The mind cannot be expected to perform optimally. Unless you've train it to do so. Stoicism has some great ideas around this (happy to share some book ideas). When people are over thinking, it's a similar idea of holding onto a bar bell mid-air and not putting it down. You're fatiguing your mind! What are some strategies? - be self-compassionate - be realistic - manage your expectations - sleep - exercise - practice activities which promote mental discipline and endurance (e.g. cold showers, meditation, having kids lol!) - practice self-care activities (see my other posts about this) adapting these to your circumstances - hence giving your mind time to recover! Rest between life sets! Put the mental barbell down! Feel free to PM me, email [email protected] or text 0423062018. You've got this!

12.01.2022 Stoked to rejoin the Bounce Back crew in Narellan! Appointments are available! Give (02) 46481669 to make an appointment.

12.01.2022 I received an email from EAPAssist about 34 affirmations to assist overcome perfectionism but I feel these are helpful regardless. "Changing our distorted and negative thoughts and beliefs is an important part of overcoming perfectionism" "Affirmations help us focus on healthier, more realistic beliefs about ourselves and the world. They can help us build new thinking patterns that reflect self-acceptance, mental flexibility, resiliency, realistic expectations, and the import...ance of self-care" Go through these whenever feels right or most helpful for you. 1. My worth isn’t based on my achievements. 2. My health is more important than my performance/accomplishments. 3. I will give myself grace when I make a mistake. 4. Mistakes are growth opportunities. 5. I value learning more than being right. 6. Everyone makes mistakes. 7. I choose to enjoy the process, not just focus on the outcome. 8. I don’t have to do things perfectly. 9. Excellence is not the same as perfection. 10. Flaws are not inadequacies. 11. I’m more than my appearance (or grades or salary or any external marker of success). 12. I’m doing my best and that’s all I can ask of myself. 13. I don’t have to be perfect for people to like/accept/love me. 14. Relationships need authentic connection, not perfection. 15. Perfection is unrealistic. 16. My opinion matters. 17. It’s okay to say no and set boundaries. 18. I accept myself just as I am. 19. I accept others just as they are. 20. My best effort isn’t the same as perfection. 21. There’s more than one right way to do something. 22. When things don’t go as planned, I will adjust my expectations. 23. I can’t control everything and that’s okay because I have the resources to cope. 24. I don’t have to do it all. 25. Asking for help is a good thing. 26. Asking for help reflects strength and courage. 27. It’s healthy to relax and have fun. 28. Everyone needs to rest, including me. 29. Having fun isn’t a reward you have to earn. 30. Slowing down helps me recharge and be thoughtful about my commitments and expectations. 31. Good enough really is good enough. 32. Done is better than perfect. 33. Progress, not perfection. 34. I’m imperfect and I’m still enough.

11.01.2022 We have an updated sign!

11.01.2022 A challenge we've been experiencing is my eldest son's difficulty sleeping. He is 8. Showers, bit of down time, brush teeth etc and bed by 8pm. Sure enough he wakes up. "I can't sleep", "I miss you", "I'm scared of the dark (night light on)"... often there's tears... and despite the strategies, controlled breathing, mindfulness, thought challenging, warm milk... we have at least one or two nights where this is an issue. My youngest, he's 6, no dramas. Is it his fault? Perhaps... some ownership is required, 1- 5% - his choices during the day. Genetics are not on him. The 95% is on me. Separated family - 2 homes, spending time at my mum's (grandma's) is like a sleepover with the cousins - lots of stimulation. Diet could be better (sugar, some fast food and processed foods) when we're there, screen time also increases - excessive dopamine. All of these factors come back to me in some way. I've set him up. Although I don't see the same impact on my youngest, ultimately they are different. What they have in common is that they are both learning and I am responsible. Something I encourage of my clients with children is to take a similar approach: - Acknowledge your frustration; - Step back and ask yourself "what have I done to contribute to this situation?" "Am I making excuses?" E.g. are you letting your child or children watch TV or the ipad when getting ready for school and getting frustrated when they're not listening or taking too long? Of course, there are conditions like ADD, ADHD, Autism etc but the principle is still the same, baring in mind these conditions, "have I set my child (or children) up to fail? This can be applied to work, sports, anything involving others, when things are not going to plan "what have I done to contribute to this situation?" Be a leader and own it. Be self-compassionate when you recognise your contribution, and channel the energy toward solutions and better systems. Aim for progress not perfection. You've got this!

11.01.2022 Good morning! As of 1st June 2020, I will be returning to face-to-face consults at my South Wentworthville rooms only. The fee change will apply. ... If you are sick, please stay home, we can do a telehealth session which I am bulk-billing still until further notice. Thanks again to all my referrers and clients for trusting me with your mental health! Very grateful!

09.01.2022 As some of my clients will know, they have been receiving phone calls and messages from Tania. I met Tania through my sons' school. Tania's confidence, determination, conscientiousness, and very pleasant manner have really shone through every time we talk. I am truly grateful for all her efforts and have been very happy to hear the positive feedback from clients.... Tania has proven to be a very welcomed addition to Mind Over Matter. The below link provides a very brief bio about Tania. http://mindovermatter.net.au/index.php/meet-the-team/

06.01.2022 Just finished reading "So you've been publicly shamed" by Jon Ronson. Free on Audible atm. Fascinating book with a lot of relevance particularly in light of our presence and engagement online through social media. The parallels to public humiliation being locked in a pillory. The use of shaming even off-line can have devastating effects for all of us. ... It made me more cognisant of how vulnerable children/young people are as they lack the capacity to understand it, or the power to stop it when shamed by care givers or other children/young people. Some key take aways are that: - ideologies of groups of people online can often drive change in good and bad ways; - shaming can be a form of bullying and can be combated in a similar way; - it appeared that shaming can work as an appropriate alternative to being imprisoned in some cases; - there is a need to be mindful when posting things online, that is when doing so, ask yourself "can I stand my ground on what I'm about to post or say?"; - be mindful of your online and off-line footprint; - if you share an opinion with someone online that you are mindful of the outcome on that person (possible suicide, job loss etc) or yourself (becoming a victim of shaming); - you may want to try to privately speak with them first, with an understanding of what you realistically expect as an outcome; Although it is easier to go with crowd or do nothing, I'm reminded of the Edmund Burke quote "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. Feel free to PM me or email [email protected] Nav - Principal Psychologist

06.01.2022 A number students have been presenting recently and it's not surprising to hear about the challenges with studying, while maintaining extra-curricular activities, their family and social lives. The main barriers as I see it are: - limited to no coping strategies to manage stress including anxiety and depressive symptoms ...Continue reading

05.01.2022 I was reflecting on a win Mia (my gf) had the other day. She has a number of wins but from a work perspective I was stoked for her. I then asked myself what are the wins that I'm having, the type of wins that make you just say "yessss!" It clicked, too often when a client has done so well and I'm able to have the convo with them "you're doing so well... I really don't think you need to come see me... my door is always open to you so feel free to give us a buzz to make an app...ointment if you need it...tell your friends" I haven't celebrated these moments as wins but just a part of what I love doing. I'm going to make a more conscious effort to acknowledge these moments as wins. Are you downplaying moments as just 'what I'm meant to do..' could we reframe these as wins? As you could have easily not done it... Posting this is a win. Reading this is a win, lol! "Yesss!"

05.01.2022 The similarities are uncanny!

02.01.2022 Very grateful to have received a Christmas thank you gift of hand-made cookies! Thank you Nessie You've come a long way!