Sarah Beetham Psychotherapist in Sydney, Australia | Marriage therapist

Sarah Beetham Psychotherapist

Locality: Sydney, Australia

Phone: +61 415 521 653

Address: 24 Park Street Mona Vale 2103 Sydney, NSW, Australia

Website: http://www.sarahbeetham.com.au

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25.01.2022 As practitioners, we know how transformative self-compassion can be especially when it comes to healing shame. But heres the thing when a client is deeply rooted in shame, the very idea of being kind to themselves can feel undeserved and uncomfortable, even unnatural. #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counselling #psychotherapy #couplescounseling #selfcare #selfcompassion

24.01.2022 Trauma is part of Life its a fact of life. Whether one has experienced the aftermath of war, grew up with an alcoholic or through violence unfolding within family. Outlined within this book, Utilising recent scientific advances, the effects of trauma and how it literally reshapes both body and brain -compromising sufferers capacity for pleasure engagement self control and trust. Much of this work underpins how I utilise information and work with trauma as a counsellor. #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #counselling #couplescounselling #psychotherapy #psychotherapist #trauma #traumarecovery #selfcare

23.01.2022 The Polyvagal Theory has revolutionized our understanding about the body's autonomic nervous system and the way it responds to anxiety, fear, and trauma. One of its key findings is that when our nervous systems are stuck in states of despair and hopelessness, it can be difficult for clients to make changes to their thoughts, feelings, & behaviors. ...Our bodies simply aren't wired that way.... But when we can change our nervous system state, THEN we can change our stories. Fortunately, Polyvagal Theory provides that foundation for effective techniques that will help clients engage their nervous systems to access safety and compassion. #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #counseling #couplescounseling #psychotherapy #selfcare

23.01.2022 Never before has so much been expected from couplesfor partners to be emotional soulmates, faithful sexual partners, perfect parents, and unwavering allies through lifes many storms. And never before have so many relationships crumbled under the weight of such heavy expectations. So when couples seek our help, we cant just sit back and let them rehash their repeated conflicts and bring out the worst in each other. We need to help them explore new possibilities and experience creative solutions that free them from whatevers keeping them stuck. #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #marriagecounseling #couplescounseling #relationalintelligence #counselling #psychotherapy #selfchange #selfcare

23.01.2022 When we're hurting, it's not uncommon to look for ways to fill the void. The void is made up of the empty, lonely feelings that stem from holes in our heart and soul. Sometimes these holes are fresh wounds like a breakup, death in the family, or losing our job. Sometimes they stem from something much deeper, like a lack of connection with family growing up, a childhood trauma, or hurt caused by someone in our past. When we lose someone or something in our life, most of us jum...p right into distractions. We start seeing new people, working on every single thing that needs to be done around the house, picking up more hours at work or packing our schedule full of things to do. We do all of this instead of feeling what we feel. This is called stuffing to fill the void. When you lose something or someone, all of the wounds, emptiness, pain and hurt are exposed. As much as it hurts, the void should not be feared. The void is where miracles, strength and change are born. The truth is that anytime you try to distract yourself from feeling what you're feeling, you're avoiding the fact that you're not whole. Something is missing, damaged or broken, and until you face it, no person or thing will ever make you feel complete. When you take the time to really feel and experience the uncomfortable space that is the void, you begin to see things clearly. #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #couplescounselling #selfcare #psychotherapy #counselling

22.01.2022 Many theories about relationships stress that the capacity to self-soothe involves or even depends on, soothing and validation from another person, mostly a partner. This model works well for children but not in adult relationships because if something happens to your external source of support, you remain with no source of support or validation. A far more mature and empowering approach to self-soothing is to see it as a way to meet the two main challenges of developing a he...althy sense of self and self-validation. The first is not losing the self when confronted with the demands and pressures from your partner. The second is developing the capacity to centre yourself by stabilising your own fears and emotional reactions. This is best accomplished by looking within and drawing on your own resources to calm yourself without needing to indulge or deprive yourself unnecessarily. When you feel resentful, angry, confused or overwhelmed, remind yourself that your challenge is to respond in a constructive and mature way, drawing on your own integrity to guide you in acting from your strength rather than your weakness. Work on managing your own reactivity because that helps you and your partner to move forward and do a different dance, rather than repeating the same old moves which end up leaving both of you hurt. #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #couplescounseling #counselling #psychotherapy #selfgrowth #selfcare See more

21.01.2022 The Polyvagal Theory has revolutionized our understanding about the bodys autonomic nervous system and the way it responds to anxiety, fear, and trauma. One of its key findings is that when our nervous systems are stuck in states of despair and hopelessness, it can be difficult for clients to make changes to their thoughts, feelings, & behaviors. ...Our bodies simply arent wired that way.... But when we can change our nervous system state, THEN we can change our stories. Fortunately, Polyvagal Theory provides that foundation for effective techniques that will help clients engage their nervous systems to access safety and compassion. #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #counseling #couplescounseling #psychotherapy #selfcare

20.01.2022 Maybe its not that you need that specific person in your life to talk to... Its that you need to be heard. To be heard by your parter - look towards one another instead of away. Gottmans The Sound Relationship House invites couples to create shared meaning, commitment and trust again.

18.01.2022 Its the week of #boundaries #boundaryviolations and finding reformation and integration of #self in the face of fluidity in our relationships- non reactive and non- passive. Sitting somewhere in the middle ground lies respectful #boundaries #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counselling #psychotherapy #couplescounselling #selfcare

18.01.2022 #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #selflove #selfcare #selfchange #couplescounselling #couplescounseling #counselling #psychotherapy

18.01.2022 When were hurting, its not uncommon to look for ways to fill the void. The void is made up of the empty, lonely feelings that stem from holes in our heart and soul. Sometimes these holes are fresh wounds like a breakup, death in the family, or losing our job. Sometimes they stem from something much deeper, like a lack of connection with family growing up, a childhood trauma, or hurt caused by someone in our past. When we lose someone or something in our life, most of us jum...p right into distractions. We start seeing new people, working on every single thing that needs to be done around the house, picking up more hours at work or packing our schedule full of things to do. We do all of this instead of feeling what we feel. This is called stuffing to fill the void. When you lose something or someone, all of the wounds, emptiness, pain and hurt are exposed. As much as it hurts, the void should not be feared. The void is where miracles, strength and change are born. The truth is that anytime you try to distract yourself from feeling what youre feeling, youre avoiding the fact that youre not whole. Something is missing, damaged or broken, and until you face it, no person or thing will ever make you feel complete. When you take the time to really feel and experience the uncomfortable space that is the void, you begin to see things clearly. #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #couplescounselling #selfcare #psychotherapy #counselling

14.01.2022 Are we all just becoming an algorithm, able to just hear what reinforces our prejudices? Is this largely the impact of social media platforms such as Facebook and this one we are using? What is the impact of the rise of technology which allows for wide spread dissemination of discontent and views that are tailored to the recipient based of their browsing history? It matters that the fundamentals of trust are declining because it leads to a breakdown in soc...ial cohesion. Social cohesion helps to hold societies together. Where social cohesion breaks down, people become more cynical and sceptical, looking to others to prove their trustworthiness. Without social cohesion individuals experience feelings of disconnection and a loss of belonging. Connection and belonging a critical people to be able to grow in trust and belonging within themselves and their chosen communities. A sense of trust in other people and trust in the way society works can then resonate beyond ourselves. #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counselling #psychotherapy #couplescounseling #selfcare #trust See more

14.01.2022 Are Your Boundaries Too Weak or Too Rigid? Do you struggle with setting boundaries? Is it hard for you to say no or assert yourself? Do you have trouble trusting people? Do you frequently feel mistreated or resentful? These can all be signs of boundary issues. Most of us are familiar with the concept of boundaries. Boundaries serve as limits, telling others how we want to be treated and what were each responsible for. They create a separation between you and others so you ca...n maintain your individuality and values. However, it can be hard to know what constitutes healthy boundaries that sweet spot between boundaries that are too weak and boundaries that are too rigid. #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #boundaries #healthyboundaries #psychotherapy #counselling #couplescounselling #selfcare

13.01.2022 Addiction is a family disease damaging to all members of a family. Enabling family members with addictive behaviour has no negative consequences for the addict. Understand the behaviour of enabling within the addictive system is central to conscious change in action and language. The dilemma of being overprotective can be replaced by an appropriate response (ie take keys off them). Where do I draw the line in witnessing someone close to you self destruct ? #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #couplescounselling #counselingpsychology #psychotherapy #selfcare #addiction #addictionrecovery

12.01.2022 At the heart of therapy lies the relationship between the client and the therapist, hence finding the right fit is key. There are innumerable modalities of therapy so, landing in a good place with a suitable approach is a process, but you must understand what it is youre looking for before you start. A plan, such as the one that follows, can make all the difference. The Self-Interview Answer these questions for yourself first. * Why therapy and why now? * What would you lik...e to work on? * What is your desired outcome? * What are you prepared to do to achieve this goal? * What do you expect from your therapist? * What have been your experiences in therapy so far, and what was useful? What was not? What are the lessons you have gleaned? The Consultation Interview Ask direct questions and get clarity before you even make an appointment. * Does the therapist have experience working with your particular issues? Whether you are dealing with an eating disorder, trauma, addiction, grief, anxiety, sexual pain, or domestic violence (to name a few), its important that you work with someone who knows your problem. * Likewise, if you are looking for couples therapy to address sexual challenges, ask if the therapist has experience working in both areas. * Ask if they have had their own therapy and for how long? If a therapist hasnt done their own therapeutic work, how can they sit with anothers discombobulated states! * Ask how long have they been in practice, what kind of training they have, and if they are a licensed therapist. * Share your answers from your Self-Interview, and ask the therapist for their understanding of your situation. You can also ask: * How do you envision our work together? * How do you describe your approach? * Do you specialise in any of the areas that I grapple with? You may be wondering if its okay to ask personal questions. It is! And it is up to the therapist to decide what is appropriate to share when responding.

11.01.2022 Individually we can take action every day by factoring in global heating and ecocide into our decisions, it is relevant that we all step up and play our part. One of the strongest predictors of resilience is finding where hope lies and then intentionally acting in alignment with this. Practices such as active hope position hope as a verb rather than a noun, it is not something we have, but rather something we do and can practice even when there are no clear grounds for opti...mism. This is a radical hope that holds steady to the belief that what we can do today is necessary even though we may not know how, when or to whom it will matter. Counselling provides a framework for existential matters -embodying all of us within our systemic humanness- Everything is in relationship. #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #psychotherapy #couplescounselling #counselling #systemsthinking #selfcare #ecocide See more

10.01.2022 Working With Feelings of Worthlessness To help clients shift out of these painful core beliefs, we need to: -know why the ruminating brain embellishes feelings of self-contempt... -understand the specific biological factors that fuel inadequacy -understand how self-criticism roots itself in the body -address the one overlooked fear that directly links feelings of never good enough to depression Working With Core Beliefs of Never Good Enough Counselling helps to find the origin of the injury and reprocess the pain #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counselling #psychotherapy #couplescounselling #marriagecounselling #selfcare

07.01.2022 The early 21st Century is presenting monumental challenges to both leaders and everyday people. The Covid-19 Crisis may represent the most devastating ongoing event since the Great Depression. In addition, global threats of climate change, mounting numbers of refugees, declines in civility and respect for democracy and accelerating inequality, are a few more of those challenges. Such matters may feel all too big to fathom, let alone respond constructivel...y. Evidence also suggests these conditions are raising a degree of existential anxiety in societies across the world. The outside world is increasingly visiting us in our lives as well as our provision of care. How can we respond individually and collectively ? Climate change and ecological breakdown are considered among the greatest threats to our personal, societal and planetary wellbeing. In Australia, the sheer scale of devastation wrought by extended drought, catastrophic bushfires and the pandemic has moved this threat out of a what will be context into the here and now of what is. This can provoke anxiety, grief and despair and raise questions about who we are in our world and how we may need to respond and change. These times call on us to confront existential concerns, acknowledge collective responsibility and reshape generative ways of living and finding meaning. Within counselling these questions are resonating more deeply. I have put together resources and delved deeper to provide support and make sense of the existential questions that we all want and need to connect with in an integrative and supported manor. #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #psychotherapy #couplescounselling #mentalhealthcounseling #counselling #selfcare #existential #existentialcrisis #existentialchange See more

07.01.2022 #boundaries #boundaryviolations #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counselling #psychotherapy #selfcare #selflove

05.01.2022 The meeting between I and Thou is seen as the most important aspect of human experience because it is in relationship that we become fully human. The I-Thou relationship is characterized by mutuality, directness, presentness, intensity and ineffability. Therapists view the client therapist relationship as the foundation of all therapeutic growth because it fundamentally affirms of human connection, validation and participation. The attempt at understanding the subjective in...ner world of the client is not a one-way street because the therapist must account for their own influence upon the client as both participants come into psychological contact. The I-Thou is a relational event that is co-created; it does not fully reside in one participant or the other. This interpersonal encounter contains wonderful potential that far exceeds two separate people in conversation. This is the place and space I reside as a counsellor. #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #counselling #psychotherapy #couplescounselling #marriagecounselling See more

05.01.2022 Have you ever wondered why you give to others or perhaps why you overextend yourself at times? I think most people can relate to taking on more than they should, sometimes out of fear that they will be perceived as unhelpful or selfish if they dont say yes. I am certainly guilty of this, but have learned, over time, how to set clear and manageable boundaries. Game changer. We all give, and hopefully we learn to receive so we can then give some more. This is a wonderful way o...f living, helping others in their time of need and making a difference in the world around us. But, without boundaries, we might come up short and not have anything left to give the people who matter most: our families, our friends, our coworkers, and ourselves. #boundaries #healthyboundaries #setboundaries #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counselling #psychotherapy #couplescounselling See more

05.01.2022 #boundaries #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #couplescounselling #psychotherapy #selfcare

03.01.2022 It took me many failures to realize that failure doesnt mean something is wrong with me. Failure is a useful and important step in our life and creative process. It shows us what doesnt work so we can move closer to what does. Whenever I hear people say, Im afraid of failing, what Im actually hearing them say is, Im afraid that if I fail, itll mean that Im a failure, people will be disappointed in me, and nothing I create will ever work. Fa...ilure brought me closer to uncovering whats right, and true, and me. And the same is true for you. So remember: The aim isnt to not fail, the aim is to fail faster, learn what doesnt work, and then adjust. Its the only way to get closer to creating your version of you #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #selfcare #counselling #couplescounselling #psychotherapy

02.01.2022 Awakening to the implications of climate and biodiversity breakdown for our own and the next generations can lead to an existential shattering of deeply held assumptions and beliefs. This can bring up a range of challenging emotions such as anger, anxiety, overwhelm, despair and denial which can make it hard for people to engage with the issue. How do we learn to cope with and alleviate the feelings so we do not become overwhelmed and immobilised, nor avoid facing the problem...s in order to avoid the feelings? When we become numb to these feelings we lose the capacity to care and are at higher risk of making harmful choices. Alternatively when we are able to deeply feel the pain of what we are facing, this can become a springboard for generational action. Counselling support can be helpful through acknowledgement and validation, transforming complex emotions into meaningful action is vital for sustaining resilience when navigating challenging times. #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #counselling #psychotherapy #couplescounselling #climatechange #anxietyrelief #shame #systemsthinking See more

01.01.2022 Anxiety Examined Close Up ~ When examined as a broader socio-economic epidemic, anxiety reveals itself not as a private emotional deficiency that can be mitigated by the false promises of anxious consumerism, but a commonly felt and identifiable structure of feeling that cuts, unevenly, across racial and gendered lines. The shared realisation that you are not alone in this dead-end job, this bottomless debt, this paralysing depression can es...tablish new propositions about the root causes of our anxieties, which can help stimulate peoples capacities for working together to build a more permanent and collective means of addressing this condition beyond the individuating and often highly inaccessible offerings of a burgeoning anxiety economy. #counsellingwithsarah #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #psychotherapy #couplescounseling #counseling #anxiety #selfcare See more

01.01.2022 Truth be told, it takes a certain kind of strength I dont always have to stay open. To choose not to go numb and hide out inside myself. To put up walls where there should be doors. To keep certain people and experiences at arms length. Sometimes we dont even know how closed weve become until life finds a way to reflect it back to us, over and over and over again until were willing to see it for what it is. And when that happens, we have a choice. The central role of attachment in human functioning and a focus on attachment can promote success change outcomes through self actualisation. #attachment #attachmenttheory #sarahbeethampsychotherapist #counsellingwithsarah #counselling #psychotherapy #selfcare