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25.01.2022 Your gifts are worth sharing. In fact, a mentor once told me: To not share my gifts would be a disservice to the world. Well, when you put it like that! ... Your gift may be your written words and poetry or perhaps your voice for sharing wisdom and philosophical insight. Perhaps your gift is empathy and compassion or unconditional love or your deeply inquisitive nature to understand all things (I resonate). By the way, my mentor was right. As I shouted earlier this week - you’re a walking miracle. Nobody can share your gifts the exact same unique and sacred way that you can and will. To withhold your gifts is to withhold your magic! And your magic is meant to be spilled. Some of your magic may be sacred to your heart and meant only for you and the rest, shared. Hoarding your magic just in case you might run out or just in case they don’t like it is like using sandpaper to wipe your bum. It’s painful and unnecessary. If you know me deeply or appreciate my magic, just imagine if I agreed with my inner critic and said, you’re right, nobody wants to participate in my magic. Maybe I’ll start my podcast when I have more experience. Remember, loves. Fear is often a story of I’m not good enough and it is not rooted in love. There’s no right way to spill your magic, only your way. So appreciate your story for what it is (a fun little idea that is not truth), and forget the way others are participating in their magic. Instead, begin by harnessing your creativity/mind/superpowers/gifts and with deep deep respect to the way your mind works. It creates and visualises like no other mind in the world (my opinion). So what’s one way you could share your gifts today from a place of YOU and contrition (no rules, expectations, comparison)? Simple giving from your heart and authenticity that would light you up?!

24.01.2022 Staying IS healing. Often we flee our feelings not because we can’t stay with them, but because we were never taught how to be with them. Many of us were taught to be good people, not whole people. ... Many of us were taught there are right ways to feel and wrong ways to feel. Many of us were taught good feelings = good person. Most of were taught wrong feelings = broken person (there’s much I could share on this topic alone). Cultivating a sense of closeness with our emotions requires us to stay with them as often as the desire to run from them, arises. Staying IS the practice. Staying IS the healing. Sensing the intense urge to flee, and compassionately staying, IS the work., Emotional intimacy is a topic I teach and feel so passionately about. My 9-month signature program, Heal Her, goes deeply into the realms of emotional intimacy. Applications close October 30th. Click the link in my bio to get a feel and to apply.

24.01.2022 E25 - We Can Do Hard Things

24.01.2022 There is no degree of heart-opening that is too small or too insignificant. This was the beautiful takeaway from inside our first Heal Her coaching call for the 2021 team this AM. Teaching heart coherence is as much a gift to me as it is to those dancing with the idea of using their hearts to a greater capacity.... While we close our hearts for many many reasons (safety, protection, fear of judgement), opening is our superpower for curating a deep DEEP acceptance for our human experience. To open is to be fully open to life. To open is to create room for all of what we feel and experience including the bad stuff. No matter how little you open today remember that every teeny tiny inch counts.

24.01.2022 As a system that normalises disordered eating, diet culture would have you believe that you’re the problem. More specifically, that your BODY is the problem. The way it looks, it’s shape, size and it’s notable differences when compared to other bodies. As a result of not measuring up to diet culture standards (smaller, thinner, leaner), you do everything you possibly can to stuff yourself inside a box that holds the promise of hope and happiness.... The entry to such a box? Your peace, your freedom, your spontaneity and your sparkle. Darling, this is a box that was never, ever, EVER made for you. And when you try to fit inside a box that was not made for you (or any BODY), you dim your light, you close your heart and for however many moments this may be, the world loses a piece of its magical sparkle (you). You can reclaim your power by focusing your attention on all that is whole and wonderful about you and your body. Deliberately seeking out the parts that you love and adore. It’s easy to find what’s wrong with yourself. Your work is to consciously find what’s right and what makes you, YOU. The more of us willing to normalise what makes us different and unique, the closer we move to throttle diet cultures death grip.

24.01.2022 I haven’t posted on socials in well over a week and what I’ve come to truly appreciate is this: I’m not here to prove a thing. I stepped away from socials because I’ve been dancing with a niggly feeling of pressure and urgency to be here on IG... and I’m quite the rebel when I find myself feeling like I should do something. ... I wondered what would come from my radio silence. I had doubts and all kinds of crazy stories about what it would mean if I wasn’t engaged on socials, which only intensified the pressure to be here. So I stopped posting and let myself surrender (albeit with some inner protest), allowing (I say that lightly ) the stories of being unseen and therefore not of service to flow through me, while doing the opposite of what they called for - literally nothing at all. No posting. Minimal scrolling. Disengaging. I’m not here to prove a thing. This feels as empowering as it does true. And by giving the part of me who thinks she has something to prove, MORE room to do less, to do nothing, the more I’ve come to truly appreciate her. I’ve found socials to be an intense energy exchange for me, and after taking some time away I’ve found a happy place with them again. I believe this happy place is a byproduct of giving myself permission to step back and away. I find it easier to see what I need by creating space, and distancing myself in order to gain clarity. I can see clearly now that the pressure and urgency to be here was coming from a place of believing I had something to prove. If turns out that even when I’m not on here proving myself, my businesses flourish, as does my heart. Questions I’m now asking myself include is this really where I want to put my energy right now? And what do I most naturally energised by. And I listen and act accordingly. I’m not here to prove anything. And the more I marinade in this concept, gosh! Feels pretty fuxking amazeballs.

23.01.2022 The mind loves to fix when the body can’t stay. Believe it or not, we don’t need fixing. In fact, when we try and fix, we are implying that something is broken and then we spend a great deal of time and energy trying to fix ourselves (that’s if we’re not getting stuck trying to figure out how exactly to do that..)... I see fixing as a way of protecting ourselves from ‘finding’ or uncovering something we believe we’re not ready to find or uncover about ourselves. In other words, we’re protecting the part of ourselves that we think makes us broken. Thus, when that ‘broken part’ surfaces, instead of staying with it, we try and fix it. And so our work is to stay and begin our dance with that which makes us feel uneasy. Channel a little light into the dark, if you will. And stay. Just a second longer. One heartbeat at a time. Moment to moment. It’s your dance, love.

23.01.2022 Swipe >> You are a literal miracle. The odds of you being born are approximately 1 in 400 trillion (google that shit).... I mean. Fact: You are a miracle. Truth: You are a miracle. One more time for the people in the back, YOU ARE A MIRACLE. Amidst such times where the bellowing energy of the world is spilling over, it’s so important (if not more), to deepen our connection to self and bring more light, more love and more gratitude to the equation. I had a beautiful consult with a woman last weekend who was carrying a heavy heavy load of energy/stuff/baggage that was not hers to carry. The weight of this energy was bearing down on her, dulling her miracle-shine and exhausting her energy stores. How do I know that it wasn’t hers to be lugging around? I only had to see the way she carried herself. Her voice was broken (literally, a mild husk). Her posture sagged and her heart was bowing to the ground. Her energy was undeniably scarce. I walked her through a visualisation and we felt deep emotion and cleared the field. I taught her my principles of the necessary hard and the unnecessary hard and we shared some beautiful things. Her voice came back and her chest rose proud. I reminded her that she can do hard things and explained how to harness her own gifts, and what is hers and what is not hers to carry. She walked out a new woman. You don’t have to believe you are a damn miracle. Because the truth is that you are. The proof is in the reality of your actual physical existence. To deny such truth is to deny reality. At the very least, acknowledge that you are the 1 in 400 trillion. Deep breath. Clear your space. And repeat: I am a miracle.

23.01.2022 Next time you’re holding yourself back, remember: What you perceive as imperfect, messy, not ready, has missing parts and pieces, is somebody else’s version of complete perfection. Perfect is just an idea. Imperfect action is motion. Motion moves the needle and will present opportunities for you to learn and pivot so long as you don’t stand still (for too long ). ... Doing nothing also has its share of beautiful lessons. So the takeaway really is: its all already perfect.

22.01.2022 More on positivity, buckle in babes. The power of positivity is revealed to us when used to seek the good but not as a byproduct of avoiding the ‘bad’ (or uncomfortable). Does that make sense, love?... When we use positivity to pull away from our discomfort as a result of feeling deeply exposed (unsafe/vulnerable), we bypass the opportunity to express ourselves fully (freedom). To dance with our discomfort is a beautiful thing. And often we begin our dance somewhat consciously and end it unconsciously, using positivity as a way to divert away from the discomfort that has arisen as a result of expressing our fear/shame/anger/insert uncomfortable feeling. E.g. We share our feelings and follow up with ‘but at least I still have x’ or ‘my problems aren’t as bad as other peoples’. Or. A friend shares her hardship with you and you say ‘it’ll be OK, just be positive’. Thus, completely severing ourselves from our discomfort. Often, positivity is reflexive (as is sarcasm) and is used to create a sense of safety - For the person experiencing discomfort and for the person witnessing it in someone else. (My IG stories today unpack this beautifully) It is my hope that you find the courage to dance with your discomfort and let it lead you back into your heart, where there is plenty of room for it to move and dissipate. Positivity can then become a lens with which you see the world through not as a way to find safety and comfort, but as a way to lift your vibe and see/sense the magic.

22.01.2022 When evolving into newer versions of ourselves there is often a beautiful paradox accompanying the transition. Let’s say personal evolution is the process of letting your old habits and behaviours die, so that a new and evolved version of you can be born. I’m talking about habits and behaviours that no longer serve you or align with your core values. They no longer make sense. Because once you know, you can’t ‘un-know’. ... We can often sense when we’re evolving beyond old patterns and ways simply by our internal desire to want to change them. We see them for the limitations that they are and we seek to dismantle them. And one place we often become stuck before we fully and completely allow ourselves to let go of what’s old news for us is, ‘what if the people closest to me don’t love/accept/see me without this trait or behaviour?’ If, all your life, you’ve been a perfectionist, how will the people you love respond to your change? If the way you receive love is through over-extending yourself and giving beyond your means and boundaries, and all of a sudden you stop. What does this mean for those relationships? How will people know you love them if you aren’t over-giving and over-taking care of them? The paradox is that the habit or behaviour you’re evolving away from is actually the habit or behaviour holding what you fear IN PLACE. And for the fear to dissipate, you must let go of the habit or behaviour. The fear of ‘how will they know I love them if I stop showing up perfectly’ is held together simply by your belief that perfectionism is a form of love. If we drop this belief, the fear has nothing to hold onto. The fear itself is a result of the belief and without the belief, there is no fear. Just acceptance. And we can often sense this as we approach the precipice of leaping into rebirth, It’s beautiful because it always feels much harder before it feels easier and because our humanness is so humbling! Just something to ponder as you walk into a new week, eyes wide and all. Sending you all so much love. xx

22.01.2022 The paradox is that we fear becoming whole, and that our wholeness dissipates our fear. There are 3 things I know be to true about cultivating wholeness. 1. Your heart must be open. For each moment you choose to close it, you must consciously choose to re-open it. No matter the time between. Open. ... 2. Listening for truth. Truth is available when the heart is fully open to receiving it (whatever it may be). Often truth will hide underneath fear, disguised as a very believable story of can’t, what if and I don’t know. Seek out truth that is purely and unequivocally yours, minus the dramatics. Listening for truth doesn’t mean you can’t be afraid. It means listen for it anyway. 3. Honouring truth. Devote yourself to honouring your truth, one heartbeat at a time. No matter what. Trust implicitly that your truth is meant for you (it wouldn’t be revealing itself to you if it weren’t). The gift you must give yourself with every step you take on this journey is, compassion. Less expectation to step perfectly, timely and softly. Sometimes what’s coming through us is imperfect, seems to take forever, and is deafeningly loud. More love.

21.01.2022 If you could sum up 2020 in ONE word, what would it be? Those of you who’ve been following me for awhile know that I’m all about reclaiming and expressing divine truth. And that has felt incredibly difficult lately (for me and my clients) with so much big energy in the world.... We’re unconsciously moving from fear-based reaction which is the opposite of standing firmly in our power and expressing our truth. So I recorded a podcast on alchemising fear with love. Because when fear is running the show, I know (for me), we’re no longer rooted in love. And it’s cloudy at best. Moving from love at a time like right now is the necessary hard (episode 25 unpacks this). It’s necessary because more love must be funnelled to the parts of our psyche that feel deeply exposed right now and, because moving from fear tends to occur unconsciously. Episode 26 goes deeply into how we can alchemise our fear with love and re-empower ourselves with open-hearted-ness which is actually what the world needs right now. Sending you all the strength to stand in your heart today, and always. [The Holistic PT Podcast on iTunes and Spotify]

21.01.2022 The best way to use your heart is to open it. Opening your heart also looks like staying with your discomfort when you feel naked, scared, worried, exposed and angry. Staying is the opposite of fleeing and shutting down (closing your heart). ... Interestingly enough, we aren’t taught to stay or relate to our emotions in school. So perhaps staying feels uncomfortable, until it’s not. That’s the beautiful side of practicing to stay. Your capacity to hold yourself expands. The best way to use your heart is to open it, access it and repeat. Heal Her, my 9-month self-reclamation program for women, is this. Embodying open-hearted-ness, learning to stay, cultivating intimacy with your emotions, and reclaiming your wholeness (power). Applications are now open for the last round of 2020. All you need is access to the internet and a desire to expand. Link in bio or DM me to join the wait list. It would be my deepest honour to facilitate this new chapter for you.

19.01.2022 A little truth bomb landing in your lap this evening. Teaching emotional intimacy and also receiving the gifts of cultivating my own emotional intimacy, has completely transformed the way I express myself and hold space for women expressing themselves. I’ve witnessed women do everything in their power to escape their anger, shame and sadness.... I’ve witnessed myself down-play my own joy and happiness because I simply did not have the internal capacity to be with it, to hold it. It’s incredibly curious and also valid. It’s not like we’re taught how to express perceived negative emotion. In fact, we’re often taught that we shouldn’t. And to over-express positive emotion is also often a no no... Becoming intimate with your emotions is about learning to lean into them with an open heart and tons of compassion. Embracing their wild, and freely expressing them without a muzzle or any form of censorship. All while feeling them until they dissipate without turning them into toxic expression. It’s one of my favourite things to teach. It’s work of the body rather than the mind. It is my hope to help women become whole humans via this framework. If you’re interested in feelings and emotions, join me November 1st. Link in bio.

19.01.2022 I’ve spent a lot of time/energy fussing over how to be devoted to more than ‘one’ thing. I remember as a kid I wanted to be a paramedic, a crime scene investigator and a paediatrician. I loved all of them. But I could only choose one. So it’s really no surprise, if you relate, that we get really stuck trying to bring two or three (or 10!) seemingly opposite worlds together. This is what my experience with combining my two passions has taught me: ... While our wildest dreams may sometimes include aspects of complete polar opposites, it is BECAUSE of their polarity, that they work so beautifully. It is BECAUSE you’re combining two pieces of a puzzle not originally mean’t to fit together, that make it so unique and worthwhile. Perhaps what the world needs right now is this exact type of vision. It never occurred to me that bringing my two strengths together actually enabled both of them to be 1000 x better in isolation of one another. That, one without the other would never have been as fulfilling or complete. That my ‘success’ would not have been as great. It’s BECAUSE they coexist that I have been able to reach a place that feels so deeply fulfilling. If you can dream it, you can do it. The world may need to catch up to your vision, but that doesn’t mean your vision isn’t worthy or EXACTLY what the world needs right now. And any fear or self-doubt is normal. It’s part of being a human living in a world that tries to enforce a right way and a wrong way. A good path and a bad path. A safe way and a risky way. I’m not saying go and quit your day job (or am I..). But I am reminding you that you can very much be into and passionate about more than one thing. And that it’s perfectly ok if you’re still figuring it out. Me too.

18.01.2022 An open heart is the opposite of a closed heart. An open heart doesn’t mean you don’t have an opinion or that you float through life with unicorns (albeit that would a dream come true). An open heart doesn’t mean you can’t stand for something or express your anger (or any emotion). ... Quite the contrary actually. An open heart is required for self-expression. We cannot feel with a closed heart. We cannot selectively numb our emotions. To close our heart is to close the gateway to feeling. So, you see, an open heart is in fact an incredibly powerful gift to the world and to yourself. And if you’ve been following me for a little while you’ll know my stance on feeling our feels. (Your feelings are meant for you).

18.01.2022 You are never safe from the opinions of other people, and it is human nature to judge. Be brave enough to assert your truth and humble enough to change your mind.

18.01.2022 It is my hope that you find a peace so unapologetically alive with joy, that nothing feels certain - and THIS lights you up. That, everything you want to create and breathe into the world becomes alive with this very same unapologetic essence. That, all the parts of you that don’t make ‘sense’, have their time to shine and be FULLY embraced and brought forward. Full fucking stop.... That, what you hide is given blazing permission to be appreciated, accepted and fucking celebrated. That, when the ground beneath you crumbles, it crumbles so fucking completely that it disappears and you finally KNOW you ARE, always were, and always will be, the bedrock. That, anything short of standing in your integrity is not and never will be of service to you. That, speaking truth and sharing your feelings, no matter how unruly, turbulent and wild, becomes the only way you express and communicate with the world. It’s is my hope... It truly is. The work I do is deeply rooted in such desire. It is brought forward from an unmistakable place - from love. My vision is crystal clear. And if you feel called to such direction and clarity, we will do exceptional things together (or your money back). Applications for Heal Her close soon. Apply here https://www.theholisticpt.com.au/heal-her

18.01.2022 My handsome man graduated to a brown belt this morning and I’m proud as fuck. You’re really somethin Oultram @tactixtraining This man has taught me so much about the world of BJJ and I couldn’t be more inspired. ... Here’s to you and a new BJJ chapter.

18.01.2022 First taste of salt this spring I never regret spending time in the ocean. And it never takes as much time as I tell myself it will. Especially when I’ve got big things happening in work/life. It’s so unbelievably important to fact-check yourself. ... It never takes as long as we think it will and in fact, such valiant acts of following our joy, CREATE MORE JOY! And joy is the birthplace of so many magical things like, incredible energy, creativity and inspired hustle (getting shit done because the energy is flowing through your veins and it feels wildly beautiful). The entire experience of ocean-grounding (this is what I call it ), is so simple. Follow the joy. Feel the joy. Side note - Nothing puts me back into my body quite as fast as diving into FREEZING COLD ocean water on a mild spring day.

18.01.2022 Every time you step out of your comfort zone you step into a bigger version of yourself. Let that land. What’s something I can celebrate with you right now? ... You are bloody magic and you can do hard things, baby.

17.01.2022 To offer the gift of seeing the people you love, is a gift in itself. I challenge you to GIVE a random dose of damn beautiful inspiration to 3 strangers or 3 of your nearest and dearest NOW. See where it takes you.

17.01.2022 The change you’re seeking is going to require a bigger version of you. The goals you want to achieve more than anything else, are going to require a version of yourself that you’ve never met. The dreams and desires you wish to call into your world, are going to require a version of you that you don’t know, yet. ... Hold that version of you true to your heart and know that she IS you, only with a better aim and focus. All that you fear as a result of becoming a different version of yourself will be handled simply by becoming this exact version. Take yourself to the frequency where the how takes care of itself. I hiked to the summit of Mt. Fuji in Japan last year. It required a different version of me. I had to visualise myself at the very top and become the woman already standing there. The girl at the top would embody trust and flow and adventure, so I became trust and flow and adventure. I was also scared and anxious and worried. I learned I can be all of the above . But scared, anxious and worried was my known. I know what these feel like and despite their unstable nature, they felt safe to me (because I know them so well!). So, to be trusting, adventurous and flowing was new, unknown. And that’s the point. We don’t create change in the known. We dance with the new and the unknown and slowly but surely we override old circuitry and voila, you’re on top of Mt. Fuji What is your Mt. Fuji?

17.01.2022 Stay in your heart. Trust the process.

17.01.2022 Reminder. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

16.01.2022 Hey you. Did you know that when we deny our emotions the space they naturally require to move, we cock-block ourselves from the very source of strength we ‘think we’ve become’ by not letting our emotions show/be seen? If, like me, you once found a kind of strength in holding back, holding in or holding down your emotions, let this be a love letter for you:... Strength is not keeping your emotions hostage. (Repeat: strength is not keeping my emotions hostage). And ‘strong’ is not what we become by masquerading a brave face like we see in the movies. No matter how right it feels (or doesn’t). To deny our emotions such freedom is to inhibit their natural flow, resulting in trapped, stagnant and stuck energy. Do you feel that? Really, the effort to hold our emotions captive traps and zaps our energy, and seemingly revokes our option for forward. In giving our emotions the air-time they naturally require to freely move and dissolve, we can move closer to our authentic source of strength and power via the space made available when the flow of emotion is returned. Check this out: Giving ourselves permission to feel our emotions also gives us a felt sense of feedback and space for moving forward. Ever had a kink in your hose? It’s like that. When we unblock the kink, the water flows freely again. Not feeling our emotions becomes the kink in our hose. Put another way, choosing openness, vulnerability and transparency will lead you down a path to emotional liberation instead of emotional exhaustion. Emotionally liberated is what we become when we lovingly drop our mask of strength and choose to be whole, freely expressed people. To be emotional is to be human.

16.01.2022 Dreams are free. My invitation for you today is to zoom out on your life and visualise something that would light you the fuck up. And then ask yourself, why not me? ... Perhaps right now you feel called to step out of the same old energy. The same old words, conversations and experiences. Perhaps right now you feel called to partake in the creation of new energy and reinvention of self. Perhaps you recognise an undercurrent of exhaustion in your mind and body that you’re ready to explore and let go of. And perhaps you’re carrying energy, ideas and rules that don’t belong to you or, they no longer serve you. Permission to take the wheel and reinvent yourself moment to moment. It’s free to dream. Take yourself there and don’t ask how. Feel how, instead.

16.01.2022 This is your end of week reminder to follow the joy. When you’re following your joy, where does it lead you?

16.01.2022 Why not both? Why not now? Why NOT me? Your words hold unimaginable power, loves. ... I’ve struggled to bring my two passions together over the years. I mean, I run a women’s only holistic gym and coach as a Strength Coach. I am SO DEEPLY passionate about health and well-being. AND I run an online business as a personal development coach and healer. I am SO DEEPLY passionate about helping woman evolve and step fully into their divine power. It doesn’t get much more opposite than that. And when I get stuck in the how. I simply ask myself why not now and why the hell not me? Because the conditioning runs deep y’all. We’re taught that life is a mostly linear path... No room for all your dreams, especially ones you’re passionate about. Bringing my two favourite things together this way has been one of my biggest tests AND, it has served my soul at the highest level. I’ve worked with HUNDREDS of women doing BOTH. So my love, why not both?

15.01.2022 It’s rarely (if at all) the big shiny things that elicit the deepest healing. Often, the bigger and the shinier, the more we tend to seek out bigger and shinier to get our dose of self-approval. E.g. If our initial experience of deep healing comes in the form of big and shiny, we sense it, feel it, celebrate it and validate that we are on the right track with our growth. The experience imprints and we become hyperaware of what growth feels like. ... But if it doesn’t continue to be big and shiny, we’ll often dismiss the smallest and most insignificant (so they seem) healing opportunities to go BIGGER. It’s like looking for your glasses when they’re on your head. Being OK with the pace at which you’re going, IS the practice. Being OK with not knowing or having the answer, IS the practice. Consciously opening your heart IS the practice. Expanding your awareness IS the practice. The big and shiny certainly has the power to cut through deep layers and like most things, it may also perpetuate your need to add another one. Thus, contributing not to your healing but your layers. Growth is not always beautifully packaged. My heal her program is not perfectly packaged. It does however pack a punch of teeny tiny consistent doses of thought-provoking and soul-expansive content that zeroes in on the most seemingly insignificant - because healing is almost always right in front of us. I’m deeply devoted to bringing unconditional love and wholeheartedness to my work. Hit the link in my bio to learn more about my signature program, Heal Her.

14.01.2022 She’s officially a coloured belt. BJJ has helped morph me into the kind of woman I only ever dreamed about. I have so much love for this sport and the people are really top humans. Special shoutout to my coaches @fabricio_pereira1 and @tactixtraining for all the time, energy, love and support.

14.01.2022 Here’s what I’ve learned about creating art, building businesses, and devoting myself to my vision: You must be willing to make imperfect art. To be fiercely unapologetic in allowing your work to be brought to life even if it is not ‘perfect’ or ‘perfectly packaged’. Shitty art in motion is still motion. No art in motion is no art at all, and no motion. You must be prepared to be misunderstood. You cannot out-explain or justify yourself and cater to the needs of every sin...gle human being. It’s impossible. It may sting from time to time and if so, it’s humbling to know you’ve still got work to do. And you must do that work because... To call in your vision of a life that encompasses everything you could possibly desire and more, there will be wounds, beliefs, ideas and the most compelling stories that must be loved and worked through. The work you do on yourself must lead you to a place where your desires outweigh the fear of the work required to call them in which is why... Having a mentor/coach to guide and help you remain tender and open while navigating your un-learning is everything and then some. The path of devotion to your dreams is paved with pieces that we often perceive as pieces that don’t fit. The pieces always fit, sometimes we need a loving unbiased eye to see how. Your friends and family may not get it. In all fairness, you probably don’t fully get it either. Again, you must give yourself permission to be misunderstood and unsupported. You must learn to be both understanding and supporting of yourself, no matter what. This is the role you commit yourself to as a devotee to your dreams. Never let your vision get too far away. Taking a break from it or putting it aside to cater to your current circumstances is a beautiful and flawed way of ensuring you never get there. You must learn to hold the vision even through the weird, wild and wonderful. If you must drop your vision every time you face adversity, do it for the shortest possible moment. And pick it back up. We’re all perfectly flawed. The magic happens when we release the idea that we aren’t.

14.01.2022 A dance with grief. I said goodbye to my benevolent little petal a few days ago. 14 years of trekking through life’s moments together. My little shadow, always there. ... And so my experience with heart-break and grief is (still, and perhaps for no set length of time), a dance. Rather than seeking to lead with pace or expectation and needing to know the next step/move, I am led. I may choose to go right and my grief leads me left. A total surrender. There’s little room (if any) to force my ego’s ideal agenda. There is no real choreography with my grief. It’s wild, untamed and intimate. Just like when I dance contemporary; A fully expressive style of dance that abandons rigidity. Grief: The most intimate of places where I find myself exactly nowhere and everywhere. Grief: A loss of deep significance instructing the heart to register an intensely personal experience stretching it far beyond its edge. Love: Freely weeping grief is a construct of being rooted in love. Allowing love to remain in and of itself amidst sadness - there is room for it all. Grief as a dance: A transfer of roller coaster energy fleeing through the air with no real agenda. Abandoning rigidity for unequivocal self-expression. Unleashed grief is not mere venting or self-indulgence, but rather healing life energy on the loose, cutting new channels in the terrain of self, uprooting stands that no longer serve us. ~ Robert Augustus Masters

14.01.2022 Let your shame take up space. Shame thrives in secrecy. Giving your shame room to breathe offers a deep healing for the part of you who once survived by shutting down and closing off or turning away or fleeing the scene.... Your words offer a powerful release and giving yourself space to say I feel shame, minus judgement and criticism, might not sound super sexy and, is a beautiful practice for giving your shame space to breathe.

14.01.2022 Trying to be a good person at all times is the surest route to depression and anxiety - Scott Jeffrey. Word. Let’s stop trying to be good people and instead, be whole people. ... Trying to be a good person truly kept me stuck in a vortex of anxiety. My biggest fear used to be what if they see my flaws. The feeling of this statement alone is exhausting. The more you accept you, the more you accept all of humanity. This is your work. A contract between you and you that liberated you from being a forever good person. And guess what? You can express your HATRED, RAGE, ANGER, AND SADNESS and still be a good person.

14.01.2022 As articulated in my IG stories for today’s Sunday inspo. Greatness doesn’t = do spectacular and enormous things with yourself. Albeit, claiming your greatness often leads to doing spectacular and enormous things with yourself.... How do you define spectacular and enormous? I think it’s spectacular that I have a podcast and, that I can eat whatever I want, when I want, because I’m an adult. What’s one thing you can acknowledge and appreciate about yourself every day this week? This is as good as any place to start.

13.01.2022 If you want more positivity in your life, let it come as a result of expressing yourself freely. I remember trying to be positive while suppressing and bottling up a bag of mixed emotions. It’s exhausting. Positivity is a wonderful thing to focus on when done not to avoid how you’re really feeling. ... In other words, if sadness is present in your body, feel sad. Not positive. Positivity trickles into our lives as a result of the space we create through feeling our feels. Our emotions take up lots of space and until we express them, positivity serves as a bandaid. And sometimes a bandaid is needed (holding it together in front of your boss). It’s not however sustainable or serving you in the long term. Let positivity come as a result of the space you create through self-expression. I’d love to know how and when or if you use positivity?

13.01.2022 I believe much of our suffering is a result of trying to fit a mould that was never ever meant for us. I can see this in every single area of my life. Business. Spirituality. Growth. Money. Body. Exercise. Nutrition. Joy. Teaching. Learning.... To be one thing only or, only the good part of each and every thing or, to do/be/act/behave/express only that which suits the mould. Perfection is like the cock-blocker of a full life (our joy). Before we even make a move, it’s right there reminding us all the ways that this move could be social suicide or attract unwanted attention. And of course, the what if statements are never too far behind. Here’s a really humbling fact. Even if we make all the moves perfectly, there is no guarantee everyone will see it that way (in fact I guarantee there’s one person who won’t). Our work then becomes reclaiming some (if not all) of our power by gently and compassionately dancing with the space that would otherwise be full of trying to meet conditions that weren’t set by you. To begin exploring and changing some of the rules that are no longer valid, or stealing your joy, and removing them completely, one heartbeat at a time. If you were already free from perfection, how would you be living today?

13.01.2022 What does change look like to you? For me, it looks like distancing myself from all external pressure and expectation and choosing a bigger version of myself, one who represents the change I desire. I visualise every trait, behaviour, action, decision and emotion that this ideal version of myself would possess, and I become her. ... I choose BIGGER than the habitual version of myself that I know now. Another way to put this: Instead of worrying about how to change (and all the steps and checkboxes I need to tick off to validate that I’m on the right track to my change), I become the change before it’s here. Wanna know the scary-fun part? I never know what/who this new version of myself is or how her presence will shake things up in my known world (my businesses, relationships etc). When we sense a desire for change or we’re on the precipice of shedding a layer of ourselves, the work is an inside job because ultimately what we’re breaking away from is the attachment to the how. @amber_hawken my dearest friend and mentors once shared a lesson with me that summarised this perfectly: If you want to become a black belt, you must live, train, eat, behave, act and choose as if you’re already one.

13.01.2022 One more time for the babes in the back, YOU ARE A WALKING MIRACLE. To deny such truth is to deny reality. Deep breath. Clear your space. You’re exactly where you’re mean to be.

13.01.2022 I’m not saying this is easy, love. I’m not saying these are the be and all. I’m definitely not saying that we must remember to practice these things in every single moment. ... So much falls through the cracks. It’s truly part of the journey. This is just a gentle reminder that our work is sometimes far far smaller and more insignificant than we realise. I used to look outward or further than my eyes could see for answers. Me too. Me bloody too! The healing opportunities often lay in the teeny tiny crevices that are so SO close we can’t always see them. May these reminders to practice seeking smaller guide you to a deeper healing. This really requires surrender. Not of your desires, strength and power. But of your censorship, beliefs and ideals that act like the glue that holds your guard in place. Slowly but surely, opening your heart and making space for more of your truth and honouring all of it.

12.01.2022 I see you. Proving and KNOWING are separate. Don’t get it twisted, sister. We’re not here to prove our value or our worth. I promise you. ... We’re here to be what lives inside of us, which is more often bypassed than it is revealed and celebrated. Proving ourselves is a byproduct of overriding our inner knowing with ideas about who we think we should be in order to receive validation from the external world. And when we do this, we lose sight of our own internal knowing which lights the way for creation and unapologetic living. And the more we attempt prove ourselves, the more the truth of who we are becomes distorted and the more we suffer as a result of such internal disconnect. And as we lose sight of our own knowing and truths, over time, we might look in the mirror and see a stranger staring back at us. The truth of who you are will always lead you to the places, experiences and situations that are 10000% meant for you. Always. Even if at first glance, they appear bigger than you and uncomfortable. Make more room for the part of you seeking to prove and please. That part of you is loud only because you’re not seeing her/him. This part of you needs your permission to take up more space so it can be seen for what it is = a byproduct of ignoring/avoiding your knowing.

11.01.2022 Our armour offers the illusion that we are (somehow) immune to pain, suffering and vulnerability. I spend a lot of time breaking down the armour of women who have spent a great deal of time being significantly removed or dissociated from their feelings. I often describe human beings as being similar to onions in that we have layers that protect us from our innate potential. ... Right at our core, beneath our layers, there’s an exquisite wholeness that we are so deeply yearning for and simultaneously afraid of. For this exquisite Limitlessness challenges all that we know to be true which would highlight why we aren’t there yet and how much we’re suffering now. And should we access this limitless potential within ourselves, what would fill this space that would otherwise be occupied by our layers of conditioning? I see it like this; It’s unusual to contemplate our Limitlessness when we’ve normalised and overlooked our disconnection to it. In fact, to consider that we are limitless is, for many humans, a pipe dream. And it is this exact tendency to deflect and regress to these (valid) ideas that keep humans from ever accessing it. We all have this Limitlessness within us. And it’s not a matter of luck as to who gets to access and harness it. It’s a matter of believing that it’s there and, choosing to believe this as often as you tell the story that it isn’t (there). For anyone needing this reminder today: You were born with the ability to transcend your limitations. You were born to shine. You were born to love it all. You are worthy and capable of standing in your heart and in your power.

11.01.2022 Diet Culture Is: A belief system that focuses on and values weight, shape, and size OVER well-being. And the most important thing I’ve come to learn about diet culture is that it is so deeply woven into our world/conditioning, that most of us cannot see how it wounds, traumatises. and plays out for us.... Diet culture normalises disordered eating and keeps us thinking that we’re the problem. The rules of diet culture often lead us to debate/negotiate our self-worth. Diet culture would have us believe that our body is the real enemy. As if, everything we could possibly need to feel happy, accepted, worthy, valued and loved, is on the other side of changing our size, our body shape, our diet and/or, our number on the scale. Moreover, we are not born with this addiction/obsession. It is learned. Today, a critical thought-provoking statement came to mind: Have we ever considered how our addiction to changing our bodies, actually gives other women (including our children) permission to do the same thing to themselves? Have we ever considered that if every time we hurt ourselves with our own words, we are unknowingly hurting all women? Or at the very least, normalising the debilitating desire that is, wishing our bodies were different? I’m not surprised by the way my heart softens and deeply feels in this area given my own journey. I am however surprised by the desire running through my veins to begin speaking out about the deeper impact and more so, to help women cultivate an unshakable foundation of self-acceptance, unconditional love and body freedom. It is simply my hope to bring more open-heartedness, love and perspective to the conversation. This work is bigger than us, but it starts with us.

11.01.2022 Three questions I’m asking myself this week. 1. Am I giving myself over to what I can’t control or am I trying to control what is undoubtedly inevitable? 2. Is my emotional state one I choose or one that I learned as a child? ... 3. What’s the smallest possible thing I can do today to move the needle in the direction of all that I desire, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, spiritually and/or financially? This practice, my loves, is the art of being intentional. I learned to worry when I was about 4 years old. Witnessing the ways I turn fear into worry serves me. If I desire joy, I must choose it and break lifelong habits by BEING joy. The smallest possible thing I can do is ask myself these questions and continue to take responsibility for my experience without using my desires as a mask to protect my pain. Did you know, you can have pain and deep suffering and still do this work? You can move from joy to sadness to anger and back to joy in a matter of moments. Permission to be intentional. Permission to give yourself entirely over to the process.

10.01.2022 It’s ok if it feels bigger than usual right now, love. It is big. It is big to stay with yourself through tough times. It is big to create change when the only version of yourself that you truly know and trust is the same version that you’ve known all your life. ... Right now, we are being presented with the opportunity to heal or to stay as we are. And the how to our change is irrelevant if you haven’t yet made the choice between the two. My question to you is: what do you choose? And know that I respect and love you no matter your answer. Truly. A gentle reminder that there is no behind. Only your judgement that it’s so. Can you be OK with that judgement so you can move forward? Can you be OK with feeling behind or better yet, can you make it OK? Or will you accept that there’s nothing you can possibly do about it and stay in the backwards of your judgement? One is just as beautiful and necessary as the other. And both are correct. Please be gentle with yourself. A little more tender than you’ve been, perhaps. You are brave. It will pass, it always does. Breathe deeper, love. You truly do have what it takes to surrender to it all right now.

10.01.2022 What are you apologising for, that if you stopped, you’d breathe more deeply? Where are you giving away too many fucks that do not concern higher you? Who do you become as a result of funnelling your power away from your heart like this?... To what end? Babe. This is your end of week reminder to roll up and re-take your seat on the throne of your kingdom (heart). Let the pieces fall where they may. TRUST that in reclaiming your throne the world is far FAR better off. Take a seat. Honour the things about yourself, your crafts, hobbies, writing and growth. Reclaim the energy that you’re freely giving away each time you apologise, defend or justify your work, actions, joy, shortcomings, and self-care. Honour the fuck out of exactly where you are and let your heart guide you back into unconditional love and acceptance. Move from here. Witness the world around you from this open-hearted space. Just watch how your perception of the world changes. Notice the power you have in your ability to love through the fear and pain.

09.01.2022 You can change the world. You’re changing it whether you realise it or not. Every action, decision, inaction, indecision, thought, feeling, behaviour...contributes to the reality in which you and I live. Mindfulness is really just a fancy way of saying pay attention to your decisions, actions, thoughts, behaviours and emotions. ... The practice of paying attention, in my opinion, trumps all others. Our attention is needed first. Our ability/willingness to look, witness, see, and notice ourselves is fundamental. It is the foundation for everything else. You can change the world by simply paying attention. And should you feel called to explore what you find, do so with unconditional love, kindness and compassion for yourself.

09.01.2022 Do you ever ponder about who you are? Sometimes I might spend a micro second contemplating what feels different about me and my world. And sometimes that micro second douses me in a flavour of fear that signals out one irregular heart beat that reminds me to check if the version of myself I’m leaning into, is safe, or not. ... So far, each of those micro seconds have led me to realise I’ve simply become more of the person I’ve always been deep down, beneath all the ways I’ve dishonoured myself and my integrity, here I am. And my ego is simply responding with holy shit balls. The permission I’ve doused myself in lately has been intoxicatingly lit and scary. Today I noticed some old stories bouncing around my noggin, and after a deep breath it clicked. These old stories are DYING. That’s why they’re so loud. I’ve been choosing liberated expression and dancing with giving zero fucks. To say it’s been wild is an understatement. Healing is rarely (if at all) ever linear. It’s a jagged, breath taking experience that demands less of what you already know and more of what is new and unknown. I questioned this new version of me today (the most aligned and in my integrity I’ve ever been). So I wanted you to know that there may come a point in your healing journey where you are faced with this new you, and it may feel like you’re about to lose something and/or must sacrifice something big. The truth is yes. Yes you are. You’re losing the story that you can’t change.

08.01.2022 What's really resonating with me right now is the idea that we each have an internal navigation system that speaks truth to us. And only as a result of believing learned beliefs and ideas over our own knowing, do we find ourselves feeling lost and undeserving of a beautiful life. I'll admit, I have really leaned into the idea that I can trust my body but before this, I often wondered why doing so felt really hard. As if I was somehow doing it wrong, you know?... In last week's podcast episode, I gently explored diet culture. Have you heard of it? Maybe you have, maybe you haven't. It's not important, really. But if you've ever questioned your personal worth as a result of the way your body looks, this one is especially for you. My takeaways for you: It takes courage and patience to begin relearning how to own your body. And loving the skin you're in is an inside job that no diet (no matter how beautifully intentioned), could ever curate. I feel so passionately about reminding you that you are wise, beautiful and powerful beyond measure. And I feel as equally supported by you (thank-you). Love, I'm sending you the strength to stand in your heart today, and always. P.S. Applications to work closely with me in 2021 are closing in a few days. If you've been curious about how to curate a beautiful life, apply here. No trickery. Let's get to chatting and explore the possibilities.

08.01.2022 I’ll continue to remind you that if you can dream it, you can create and/or achieve it. Humour me (and yourself): What’s the smallest possible step or action you could take right now? ... Here’s some ideas: - Put it on paper. - Apply for your ABN. - Scribble business name ideas down. - Meditate on it. - Ask for a trial. - Collect an answer to one question you have. Ask yourself: What would I already be doing if I had this thing (business, black belt, PT, $1 million dollars$). Be her. Be that energy. It’s never too late to say yes to your dreams. The world needs you to say yes to your dreams, so we can see MORE of what’s possible when we just believe.

08.01.2022 How can you be sure that the people you love are better off getting away from their negative feelings and difficult emotions by lightening up or being more positive? And ASAP? What if, the people we love (ourselves included), need to STAY with their anger? Their hate? Their grief? What if attuning to and connecting to such difficult states, rather than being more positive, actually moves them closer to wholeness?... The more we attach to the idea that positivity and lightness is better, and negativity and darkness is worse, the more divided and cut-off from our wholeness we become. The more we fight and expend energy to stay with that which feels tolerable , the more we stay in our zone of comfort (where we’ll stay until we expand it). Our job is not to ask the people we love to lighten up or be more positive (this in itself can be harmful and perpetuates the idea that feeling down is bad - it’s also shame-inducing, even if you mean well). Instead, stay. Stay with them and do nothing but send love into their space. And if you can’t stay, don’t expect them to flee with you. This is simply a projection of your own inability to stay with how their discomfort is feeling for you in your body. There’s always MORE ROOM for spaciousness and compassion. Harnessing compassion for yourself as you hold space for yourself (and others) is a beautiful gift. This year I’ve truly learned, and in many ways, mastered the art of holding space. I’ve held and continue to hold space for my clients, friends, and family. The intensity of the space I hold varies and I never expect those across from me to flee or lighten up. I’ve felt this become the most deepening and meaningful gift for so many women, myself included. There’s nothing quite like having your human experience in the presence of a space-holder. Heal Her, my 9-month program is this for women. I believe this with my entire heart and, it has been the experience of dozens of women. Should you feel called to explore, click the link in my bio and discover what Heal Her is and what she offers or send me a DM for link. Question - Is this a new concept for you or are you a seasoned space-holder?

08.01.2022 Personally, I’m tired of walking into a new year with the same dialect. Placing all of my hopes, goals, dreams and desires into one basket in anticipation of bringing them (and only them) to life, because this year is THE year... It feels disproportionate to my capacity to dream big, change lanes, and find inspiration anywhere at any time. Can you feel that?... It feels like I’m discounting those moments that have yet to fall into my lap that will ultimately ask me: Do you want this? What about this? And how about that? I think we sometimes forget that living is the ultimate aphrodisiac. The freedom to be completely aware of and simultaneously unbound by our goals - so we can pivot, explore and roam with our hearts at the helm. This year I’m compiling a list of potent questions to STOP asking, and have replaced them with questions that leave room for the unexplored, unrevealed and unspecified. Could 2021 be different simply by the way you choose to enter it?

08.01.2022 It’s really important to me that you know how valid and necessary ALL of your emotions are. The new year is almost here and I sense the ever so beautiful collective intention of being more positive in 2021. And I’m so here for it. But first, can we please have a little chat around this? Just so we don’t dive head first into 2021 holding ourselves to impossible positivity standards?... Here’s what’s on my heart, loves: Positivity truly is a powerful tool to harness when done with the intention to continue to express all of your darker emotions alongside your positivity. Anger, sadness, grief and shame are big emotions that are meant for you. And none of them are negative emotions. To blindside and suppress them with positive thinking is something we do to bypass and avoid letting ourselves feel what’s inside. Many of us have lost something this year. A dream, vision, idea, adventure, income, connection. And while things could be much worse, giving yourself permission to feel that loss is safe. You are valid in your loss. Truly. Loves, positive thinking does not protect us from our disappointment, grief, loss, anger, shame, sadness, and worry. I’ve had a shocker these past 24 hours. I’ve been dancing with some heavy stuff. An entanglement of rage, anger, frustration, and deep grief. If I held myself to such high positivity standards, I would feel deep shame and frustration for feeling this way. I might try to push those feelings away or eat them or push them down... So it’s important to me that you know, all of your emotions are valid and necessary. The world truly needs all of our high vibes right now, and feeling our darker emotions does not fuck with those high vibes. I promise you! Turning to face your anger does not move you away from your intention to be more positive. Not in the slightest! Downplaying your feelings and slapping a positive over them however, does. I spend my days teaching women how to process their emotions and I’m so aware that it’s a journey. The greatest intention we could have for 2021 is to keep our hearts open and feel all the feels. Be kind to yourselves.

06.01.2022 And what I really mean is, when we use positivity to hold back or cover up or pull away from the truth of what we’re feeling, we miss out on a beautiful chance to dance with our discomfort. I’ve been speaking a lot about this lately as I’ve seen it playing out for so many of my babes. I’ve seen how slapping a positive over a shitty feeling, experience or situation, severs the line that connects you to your POWER. Your power being the permission to have your feelings an...d express them. If you resonate and have been following along, it is my hope that you find some permission in my words to begin your dance. Discomfort does not equal bad, love. It’s what we make our discomfort MEAN that often creates the idea that it’s wrong/scary... And the more we use positivity to move away from it, the more unfamiliar it will feel. For any of you beauties who need this reminder today, it’s OK to not have all of the answers right now.

06.01.2022 All the ways we muzzle and censor ourselves to uphold our masks ultimately become the exact barriers to not getting or receiving what it is that we deeply deeply desire. We deeply crave intimacy and connection yet, uphold a mask of strength to keep ourselves from being too at risk of getting hurt or being seen as vulnerable. (Intimacy cannot take root when our hearts are untrusting and closed like this.) We deeply desire a companion in life yet, hold up a mask of indepen...dence that keeps us from needing anyone, out of fear of losing control or getting lost in love (losing our independence). We deeply desire a business that serves and thrives yet, withhold these exact dreams from ourselves out of fear of failing. We say one day. We sense our deep desire for MORE and down-play or muzzle ourselves from going even one step further. This may not be you at all. And, this has been my experience and I love unpacking my own experiences as a way to connect with anyone who feels my words. Sometimes the scariest thing to do is acknowledge that you are the barrier. And that you always have been. And I want to remind you that even if this is true, there is no expectation that you must do something with this knowledge straight away. I’ve found it helpful to simply make more room for these revelations to exist alongside everything else. And when you’re ready (ready) you’ll know exactly what you need to do. And sometimes a little help and reminder that you are magic is needed. And this really is a gift of Heal Her, my 9-month online program for women. Applications closing mid-October. Apply here if you’ve been curious or would love the opportunity to work with me. https://www.theholisticpt.com.au/heal-her

06.01.2022 Perfection. *gulp*. Yep. I’m going there this week. I’m taking my open-heart down the rabbit hole of all that is perfectionism. I’ve wrestled with perfectionism for as long as I can remember, honestly. And I’m witnessing it cripple and exhaust the women I work with and I feel their desperation deeply. ... So let’s unpack perfect (my definition/experience)- Perfect; A simple idea that we turn into who we should be and how we should look/feel/act/behave. We could definitely talk about all the ways society and social media and advertising send us on a chase for perfect. We could definitely lay blame here. Or, we could reclaim even more of our power and even more of our energy, and start with ourselves. Here’s what I know to be true, love. If we must be perfect then we must not be imperfect. And if we must not be imperfect then we simply can’t be free. Our freedom is a result of wholeness. This means we (this is our work) accept that we are all things (good, bad, ugly, pretty, happy, sad, crazy, a victim, powerful, weak, boring, learning). I know what I’m asking, and I know it’s a lot (for me too). We can’t be free if we’re spending a great deal of our energy, time and attention trying to be everything that we fundamentally are, but believe we are not. The effort alone is EXTRAVAGANT and it’s really no wonder you’re exhausted. My hope for you is that you can begin to dance with the little, the micro, the tiniest pieces of you that you don’t believe are perfect, worthy, loveable or valuable. Freedom begins here. It does not happen overnight. And this is not about blindly loving yourself silly. This work is - piece by piece, moment by moment, one heartbeat at a time, beginning to cultivate a relationship with every aspect of yourself. Even the part of you who desires perfection. This is not just about how we look. It’s about how we’re not fully living as a result of denying our shadows.

04.01.2022 Where are you coming from? I’ve reflected on the last few weeks (as I do in the lead up to my cycle) and I’ve witnessed myself move from fear multiple times. I’ve been swept up in the bellowing energy of the world and, the louder it feels, the more I struggle to discern what’s theirs and what’s mine.... Remaining in my integrity and truth has felt more challenging than ever before. I’ve had to drop in countless times each day and ask myself a very simple and truth-provoking question: Am I coming from love or fear? Am I rooted IN love or am I rooted IN fear? I quickly recognise where I’m out of alignment and inhale deeply to comfort my nervous system (as it responds the way the heart skips a beat, sometimes). The key element that I am reminded of in these moments is that: Fear begets fear and love begets love. In other words, moving from fear devolves me into reactivity and survival (defend to the end). Moving from love lengthens and expands my capacity for more and more wholeheartedness. You can bet all your beautiful souls that I re-choose love in those moments. To be very clear. Moving from love does not mean defeat or settling. It means the heart is open. And when the heart is open we are LIMITLESS (love is one of the highest vibrational frequencies there is). Limitless in our creativity, solution-finding, decision-making, and seeing all sides. Moving from love at a time like now is the necessary hard (I unpack this on the podcast in episode 25). Necessary, because more love must be funnelled to those parts of our psyche that feel exposed right now. And hard, because moving from fear tends to occur unconsciously. If you are unequivocally honest with yourself right now, which would you say you’re rooted in? Love? Or fear? If you answered fear, I’m with you. Let’s champion each other as we start planting seeds of love amidst the chaos.

04.01.2022 Here’s a sweet little word on Negative Thoughts. When I start working with new women we often wade into the waters of I struggle to get rid of my negative thoughts. I wanted to share a little insight for anyone who needs it right now.... Our negative thoughts are simply thoughts we’re judging. The negative part is not the thought, it’s our judgement of it. ANY time we try and get rid of our negative thinking, we channel a ton of energy into that process, amplifying the intensity of the judgement of the negative thoughts. In other words, the process of trying to rid negative thinking makes negative thoughts more intense. We judge more harshly. We amplify their power by giving them power. I often remind my ladies that when we give away such power, we’re implying that the negative thoughts are bigger than us. Which is a lie. But of course, there’s beautiful insight to our negative thoughts. They truly highlight where more love is needed from you and less judgement. Our work becomes, bringing a new level of openness, love and acceptance to the part of us that judges. Rather than, trying to get rid of or get away from negative thoughts. The more love you channel, the faster they will leave. Your true nature is love. All that you are can heal.

03.01.2022 Freely weeping grief (expression without shame) is a construct of being deeply rooted in love. Allowing love to remain in and of itself amidst sadness will require us to make room for all of it (sadness and love). And we make room by expanding our heart more and more. Opening it more and more. Stretching it’s capacity more and more. Trusting it more and more. This does not mean it will be comfortable or easy. It means we open anyway. ... Having experienced a deep loss recently, I’ve come to fully appreciate how my grief, when anchored in love, pours so freely without condition (shame, guilt, judgement). And to freely express, even with pain in our hearts, is to be free and to be human.

03.01.2022 Holding a bigger future in my medi this morning as the sun rose high. What I mean by holding a bigger future is, alchemising my own fears AND also the collective fear penetrating my space through meditation. My practice today included envisioning something far greater than my/the collective fear, and I took my body to the frequency of that place. ... Future dreaming, if you will. And I delighted in the feels of such a place and allowed them to take root in my body so I could carry their energy with me throughout the day. This took courage. I could feel a pull to stay in my fear. Fear is familiar. Joy in the midst of fear is foreign. And I’m learning that joy in the midst of fear is essential to alchemise fear.

03.01.2022 Because, magic. And, a superpower you may have forgotten about is your attention. Where is your attention? ... Wherever your attention goes, so does your energy.

02.01.2022 Unleashed grief is not mere venting or self-indulgence, but rather healing life energy on the loose, cutting new channels in the terrain of self, uprooting stands that no longer serve us. Robert Augustus Masters.

01.01.2022 In place of new year resolutions: Walk towards your own heart this year, if nothing else, my friend. Know in your heart that you can choose a goal, set an intention, and bring life to a creation or project at ANY time. ... Let your heart be what you walk towards and come back to consistently. Let your desire for your liberated self-expression become more than an observation. Let your body tell you when to move. Take up more space than ever before in your heart. Make your own rules. Including how you enter a new year and what that means to you. Sniff out the bullshit and replace it with what lights up your entire being, for the first time ever. There is so much magic for you inside the decisions that don’t deny, block or push away one half of a whole. We can always come back to our hearts. We can not be positive always. We can always come back to our truth. We can not be joy always. Choose that which enables more of life. There is more room in your heart than you know.

01.01.2022 My gran. Well, she is super hardcore! And today, some of tenacity really rubbed off. Spending time with my gran today, an aged woman who has been through war, disease outbreaks and famine, reminded me of something I feel I’ve been on the precipice of these past few months. Today it finally stuck. It stuck HARD. ... What finally stuck is this: To stay curious about the joys of life and to continuously engage with my own heart OVER the opinion of others. Before I went to be last night I also made a promise with the universe that I would enrol 2 new heal her clients today and begin supporting them immediately. And I did. It’s done.

01.01.2022 Just because it’s not working out doesn’t mean it’s not working out. @spiritdaughter

01.01.2022 Heal Her is for the woman who: Doesn’t see her magic and often talks herself out of her dreams and goals. Deeply desires to live unapologetically (U-N-A-P-O-L-O-G-E-T-I-C-A-L-LY). Deeply desires to be seen and loved for all that she is (and to SEE HERSELF THIS WAY).... Wants complete autonomy over her heart, purpose and finances. Wants to learn to trust her emotions and big feelings. Judges herself harshly, often. Has her heart set on feeling whole and free as a sovereign being (as a mum, guardian, mentor, sister, teacher, leader, growth facilitator, woman). Lacks the gumption to create and enforce her boundaries. Wants to feel for her yes, and her no, and honour the sh*t out of both. Seeks validation (acceptance) from the world around her (especially from her loved ones). Feels a deep sense of alone-ness or relies heavily on others to feel safe, loved and seen. Often feels a sense of powerless or helpless in her day to day. Seeks deeper practices and to embody her growth (not just learn/know more stuff). Wants to make more money. Desires to feel and follow her joy, without the guilt. Feels it’s time to learn how to ask for help, and to see this as a strength (not a weakness). Wants to let more love in to her heart (people, too). Wants to cultivate the ability to think for herself and tap into her intuition, deeply. Wants to break the pattern of passing down un-healed trauma to her babies. Feels called to work with a woman who has a big heart and is here for ALL of your experience. It would be the deepest honour and you will receive more than enough. Apply here: www.theholisticpt.com.au/heal-her Either way; I’m here to share and continue to be a lighthouse for women to fully step into their hearts and desires. And I have so much beautiful insight to share with y’all.