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25.01.2022 Hurt people hurt people. Dont let the anger burn you up!

24.01.2022 For better or for worse. Til death do us part.

22.01.2022 Yesterday Pam had a request from one of the women that she mentors if she had the rules to a fair fight. The Holiday season does create tension, stress and times a couple will disagree. We thought we would share those guidelines for fighting that we share on the Weekend. To make fighting helpful rather than harmful, United Marriage Encounter suggests these common-sense guidelines: 1. Fight. Dont dodge or evade the confrontation. Constructive fighting is better than pouting ...or the silent treatment, and is sometimes a necessary part of communication between husband and wife. 2. Be fair. Let both spouses be heard; take turns speaking and listening. Do not interrupt. Dont hit below the belt but dont wear the belt around my neck! Be careful not to attack in extremely sensitive areas, but dont be so sensitive that we cant talk about important issues. Choose my words so my lover will see I am trying to be fair. 3. Stick to the subject, but find out what the subject is. Usually the real subject is not whatever started the fight. Look below the surface. 4. Dont repeat history. Dredging up old grievances can re-open old wounds, cause needless anger and pain, and get us off the subject. Use a 48-hour statute of limitations (time limit). 5. Do not call each other names. Name-calling is character assassination, not fighting and may inflict wounds that hurt for a long time. Consider: If I call my mate an insulting name, will I regret it tomorrow? 6. Finish the fight. Dont walk away, refuse to talk, or retreat into icy silence. Tears are all right, but shouldnt become an excuse to avoid finishing the fight. An unfinished fight will smolder like a pile of damp, burning trash and it will flare up again. 7. Hold hands while fighting. Yes, we mean it! Holding hands helps us focus on each other and remember this person I married is the most important human being in my life far more important than whatever we are fighting about. Try it! Many couples report when they are angry it takes a great effort to hold hands, but it does de-fuse and discharge some of the anger and often leads to laughter and reconciliation. Dialogue question: Did I remember this from our Weekend? Which one has helped me the most? How do I feel about my answer?

21.01.2022 A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of Gods armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. Ephesians 6:10-12 NLT For all of you couples that have just finished your Weekends you need to identify an...d put on your armor of God. Satan wants to reclaim your Weekend experience and have you forget it. And you will if you let him, many do. You are not fighting flesh and blood satan is crafty and good at what he does. Here are the tools we ( the UME Family) gave you to win the battles ahead: Give your marriage to Jesus, he will be with you, surrender your marriage Pray for each other continuously Pray always for each other and your marriage. Dialogue regularly - find your style, your time, and your way to maintain a lifetime habit if dialogue. Join a CORE and participate. Helping others will help you. Serve together - there is a great JOY from serving God with your spouse. These a few tools many couples including Pam and I have found work. It takes focus, perseverance, and Gods grace but it is yours for the taking. Dialogue question: Do I think we have our marriage protected? How do I feel about my answer?

20.01.2022 Hurt people hurt people. Don't let the anger burn you up!

18.01.2022 Many spouses have different hobbies and that's ok! Make sure you dialogue, keep dating, and share your feelings!

18.01.2022 How amazing is that?

18.01.2022 Yesterday Pam had a request from one of the women that she mentor's if she had the rules to a fair fight. The Holiday season does create tension, stress and times a couple will disagree. We thought we would share those guidelines for fighting that we share on the Weekend. To make fighting helpful rather than harmful, United Marriage Encounter suggests these common-sense guidelines: 1. Fight. Dont dodge or evade the confrontation. Constructive fighting is better than pouting ...or the silent treatment, and is sometimes a necessary part of communication between husband and wife. 2. Be fair. Let both spouses be heard; take turns speaking and listening. Do not interrupt. Dont hit below the belt but dont wear the belt around my neck! Be careful not to attack in extremely sensitive areas, but dont be so sensitive that we cant talk about important issues. Choose my words so my lover will see I am trying to be fair. 3. Stick to the subject, but find out what the subject is. Usually the real subject is not whatever started the fight. Look below the surface. 4. Dont repeat history. Dredging up old grievances can re-open old wounds, cause needless anger and pain, and get us off the subject. Use a 48-hour statute of limitations (time limit). 5. Do not call each other names. Name-calling is character assassination, not fighting and may inflict wounds that hurt for a long time. Consider: If I call my mate an insulting name, will I regret it tomorrow? 6. Finish the fight. Dont walk away, refuse to talk, or retreat into icy silence. Tears are all right, but shouldnt become an excuse to avoid finishing the fight. An unfinished fight will smolder like a pile of damp, burning trash and it will flare up again. 7. Hold hands while fighting. Yes, we mean it! Holding hands helps us focus on each other and remember this person I married is the most important human being in my life far more important than whatever we are fighting about. Try it! Many couples report when they are angry it takes a great effort to hold hands, but it does de-fuse and discharge some of the anger and often leads to laughter and reconciliation. Dialogue question: Did I remember this from our Weekend? Which one has helped me the most? How do I feel about my answer?

16.01.2022 Due to COVID19, the Sydney United Marriage Encounter Weekend scheduled for 28-39 August 2020 is now postponed to August 2021.

15.01.2022 Were happy for you!

13.01.2022 Dialogue! Why hold on to negative feelings towards your spouse?

09.01.2022 Dont wait... start a dialogue!

08.01.2022 You and your spouse are the best!

08.01.2022 Every Couple deserves a Marriage Enrichment weekendRegister now for next Sydney weekend at North Ryde Marriott Hotel. 28-30 August 2020 www.unitedmarriage.info Join us for information session at Carlingford on Sat 7/3/20 4.30-6.00 pm to find out more.... Call 0429998937 for venue. Valentines Night Cruise at Sydney HarbourCouples having a good time dancing the night away

06.01.2022 We're happy for you!

06.01.2022 Valentines Night 2020 Sydney United Marriage Weekend has been postponed to 27-29 August 2021. Register via www.unitedmarriage.info

05.01.2022 Australia Day Couples Walk & Breakfast Register now for 28-30 August weekend at North Ryde Marriott Hotel! Www.unitedmarriage.info

01.01.2022 We love to see marriages prosper!!

01.01.2022 Don't wait... start a dialogue!

01.01.2022 Many spouses have different hobbies and thats ok! Make sure you dialogue, keep dating, and share your feelings!

01.01.2022 "But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord" Joshua 24:15 (NIV) In church last Sunday we learned about our role, as the church, outside the church walls. After all, according to Gods Word, We are the Church! Three aspects of our lives show others we care. They are Attract, Serve, and Influence. Our marriage lives out this to a degree. Attract, began when we first met. I noticed Cheryls quite smile and her dimples. She tells people, "He was tall and handsome." (I...ll take that!) We had what it took to attract each other. Serve, is what we have learned to do for each other throughout the years. I bring Cheryl a morning cup of coffee each day. Cheryl sees to it I have clean clothes to wear. Together we clean our home as a service of love. Influence, is what we have on others. We regularly invite our grandchildren out to eat. We (Cheryl) buy Christmas dresses for the great grand babies! We read the story of Jesus on holidays when all are gathered in our home. Question: How does our marriage influence others? How do I feel about that?