Therapy Through PLAY and Relationships in Melbourne, Victoria, Australia | Counsellor

Therapy Through PLAY and Relationships

Locality: Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

Phone: +61 498 177 243

Address: Carnegie Central Medical Clinic Level 2 Carnegie Central 2 Koornang Road, Carnegie 3163 Melbourne, VIC, Australia

Website: http://www.childplaytherapy.com.au

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21.01.2022 "Instead of viewing 'attention seeking behaviour' as negative and something to be punished, parents would do well to see it as the child's way of saying "I'm feeling overwhelmed right now, I can't stop doing this and I need your help to calm me and help me to control myself". Once again, excluding a child by placing them in Time Out is exactly the very opposite of the response they need."

20.01.2022 "...listen calmly when ... child is in distress, rather than getting angry or irritable. Almost always, an out-of-control or misbehaving child responds better to patient soothing than to punishment."

20.01.2022 "The way children choose to play and learn is usually better than enough it is the perfect thing for them to be doing at that particular time."

17.01.2022 "...children who struggle to produce, or hear, rhythms also tend to have difficulty with language processing and reading.... also discovered that playing an instrument or singing for two years can fundamentally and permanently improve a child's cognitive abilities. It's a testament to the profound effect that rhythm has on our cognition and a compelling argument for music education."

17.01.2022 "It isn't a 'mark of respect' for a child to hug or kiss an adult they don't wish to have physical contact with. It is forcing a child to do something with their body against their will."

15.01.2022 "To not know what you’re doing with your future though is socially unacceptable. To not have a plan when you leave school is the equivalent in many peoples eyes of being a failure. But to not know what you’re doing, to accept that and admit that, and to not rush into something until you’re sure about it, that’s brave. It’s smart."

14.01.2022 "This child was the original velcro baby. She would not be put down for at least the first 6 months of life, and she wouldn’t sleep without me (or sometimes daddy) for another year after that. She slept on my chest for most of her first year. She basically slept with my boob in her mouth most of the night and at least one nap a day for longer than a year. She lived in a baby carrier and almost never sat in the baby carriage (we used the pram for lugging gear, the kid rode in ...the sling). She breastfed on demand for over 18 months day and night, and then was night weaned (but still co-slept as needed) and continued to breastfeed during the day until age 2.5 years. She was nursed and danced and rocked when she needed comfort. She was cuddled and rocked when she needed comfort after weaning. She was parented to sleep for YEARS (and still had bedtime cuddles well past age 10). I broke every single rule in the book, if you believe in that kind of thing, and yet here she was self-soothing like a pro at an age when many kids struggle with self-regulation. Let’s face it, many adults struggle with self-regulation! So, forgive me if I congratulate myself for a minute here and offer this unsolicited advice:" See more

11.01.2022 "When kids are having difficulties engaging appropriately with peers or adults, it is often because they aren’t clearly perceiving the boundaries and perspectives of others. This is understandable if parents haven’t consistently defined and asserted theirs from the start. It is an unintended consequence of prioritizing our children’s needs and desires over our own. We’ll always be our children’s most formative relationship model, so we can’t expect them to be sensitive to the needs of others when they haven’t seen that those needs exist in us."

10.01.2022 "We have all been taught and conditioned to think that negative behaviors of children are purposeful and intentional. Even if you don’t believe this consciously, subconsciously many of us have this programming and thus we react with anger or frustration when we see behaviors that go against compliance. Furthermore, we often move quickly to fix that behavior without really understanding the true meaning of it."

10.01.2022 "...children don’t always feel our love because ‘love’ is a difficult concept for children and even teens to grasp. In a way, children see love as connection where they sense that you not only see them, but that you feel them invisibly and strongly. Children live in the present moment and when we come and join them, even briefly, in that amazing place it makes their hearts sing. When we can come to them and share in their childlike view of the world, children know we love them."

09.01.2022 "The research is out that links early childhood trauma stress (and stress in general) to the onset of adult disease. We gotta pay attention to these findings if we want to not only improve and heal our health, but prevent future dis-ease from happening. What we are starting to learn is that trauma is not necessarily those big blow-up events like a massive car accident, surviving torturous abuse or being in combat."

08.01.2022 "Although lying is usually something to be discouraged, the child's underlying insight into how minds work is an important accomplishment. Understanding how other people come to their beliefs allows children to communicate more effectively, to develop better relationships with their peers, and to engage in more elaborate and collaborative pretend play. Even so, children's initial, funny, sometimes troubling, and always-sloppy lies are signs that they have discovered something important about how other people's minds work. Being able to guess what someone else is thinking and know how to influence someone else's beliefs are at the root of deception, but of effective communication and social interaction as well."

08.01.2022 "Time and time again I hear parents who have received there precious little one from an orphanage and they say something like, she is the best baby, she never cries. And we try to explain to the parents that this is not actually a good thing. We instead celebrate when this little one begins to cry to express their needs because it shows that he/she is beginning to trust that their needs will be met."

03.01.2022 "Those strategies make matters worse because they give children the sense that we’re against them, which tends to make them feel even more uncomfortable, emotionally flooded, stuck. It’s as if children know they’re not doing the right thing, but they can’t find their way out of where they are, so they struggle and become even more confrontational, which we interpret as consciously bad behavior."